Welcome to Sanctuary 6

by Christopher Lovejoy on November 11, 2021

Note to readers: this post is the sixth in a series of posts about flowing into and out of sanctuary

When I hear the name Marilyn Monroe, I think “generous giver of life and love with hints of the lust for life” before I think of her impeccable appearance, and when I hear the name James Bond, I think “savoir faire beyond compare,” before I think of his impeccable manners.

When a dramatic performance impresses me as impeccable, I think “purity of perfection according to the very highest standards of propriety.” To emphasize this, I would say “flawless” or “faultless” according to the highest standards, not of morality or spirituality, but of propriety.

In an ideal world, meeting the very highest standards of propriety would include and imply meeting the very highest standards of morality and spirituality. Propriety, however, as I think most of us know, need not include or imply either. Think “prissy,” or “prudish,” or “stickler.”

Propriety speaks to appearance, behavior, or performance in context: was it appropriate? was it correct? was it fitting? was it proper? And, to what extent or degree was it appropriate, correct, fitting, or proper? That is to say, was it impeccable? Was it without any fault whatsoever?

Again, impeccability is a social virtue, not a moral or spiritual virtue. I can be honest and speak with integrity until I’m blue in the face, and still not be impeccable with my word. Who is to say that the manner in which I deliver my words is appropriate, correct, fitting, or proper?

The answer seems obvious: only those who are sensitive to context. Any delivery of value can really only ever be governed, guided, and grounded by time and place, and only those who know the time and place, and know them very well, can speak impeccably to matters of propriety.

Now you might be wondering: what has any of this have to do with anything? I myself wonder: what does this have to do with seeking and finding sanctuary impeccably? Before I respond, let me tell you a story.

A Story in a World of Troubles

Once upon a time, a group of people identified as X were pegged as Y and Z.

Which meant, they didn’t measure up: “not enough” and “not good enough.”

According to the tribe, they were too much of this or too much of that, not enough of this or not enough of that. It wasn’t long before they were shunned for being out of sync, and then scorned for not being simpatico, until finally they were persecuted and prosecuted without mercy.

One day, one among their number made a fateful decision, one that would eventually affect the entire world, vowing to rise to the pinnacle of power, even if this meant becoming consumed by the lust for power. Others, of course, joined the cause, and their numbers grew in time.

A tradition grew up around the cause, and over time, a code of “proper” conduct was formed, one that informed and inspired their followers to rise in their power. Except that it wasn’t proper. Not really.

You see, this conduct summoned the Devil ~ that is to say, the Devil’s power.

Now you might be thinking “Ha! I don’t believe in the Devil.”

Well, good for you, but that doesn’t matter, don’t you see?

They believe.

Let that sink in for a moment.

They believe.

So strongly and persistently, in fact, that they grew immeasurably in their power.

What they conceived and believed they achieved.

Today, they own and control almost everything in existence through a tightly knit network of institutions and corporations, but don’t take my word for it; do your own research and see for yourself.

Here’s a hint: Vanguard. Here’s another: Blackrock.

Ah, but can you hear the pissy rejoinder?

“So what if they do control the world? What does that have to do with me?”

Me, me, me.

If you had read my most recent post, you wouldn’t be asking those questions.

Listen, when a group of dark souls rises to the top of the pyramid of power, impeccability becomes a pressing concern, and what better way to impose and enforce impeccability than to generate and perpetuate some very serious catalysts for growth, even if this is not the intention.

Catalysts for growth like a planned pandemic ~ a plan-demic, if you will.

Or a “vaccine.”

Or a “vaccine” mandate.

Or a “passport.”

What kind of passport?

A digital passport that gives you permission to live, love, and learn.

Wait, what? Permission?!

Yes, dear reader, you read that right: permission.

One that leads to a technocracy governed by a system of social credit.

But the story doesn’t end here, unless, of course, you no longer care.

Yes, it’s true that the world as we once knew it is coming to an end, and yes, be cynical, at least a little, enough to grasp what is happening, and yes, be pessimistic if you must, but don’t drown yourself in your pessimism, or your cynicism. And please, don’t lose yourself in fatalism.

If you should need an object lesson, an example of someone who appears to be on the verge of “drowning,” look no further than the comedian George Carlin who, in one of his last performances, proclaimed on stage with a ferocious emphasis: “it’s a Big Club, and you ain’t in it.”

The story still awaits a conclusion, but as you can see, the persecution has come full circle.

What goes around, comes around.

What Mr. Carlin didn’t know was that yet another group of people has been working behind the scenes worldwide for decades to bring down the rulers of this world, one that I hear is coming along well ~ it’s only a matter of time before the relevant history book is written by the victor.

In the meantime, where do we go from here?

That would very much depend on who you mean by “we.”

We, the Elite, or We, the People?

The Big Club has a world to conquer, doing everything in their power to coax, compel, and coerce most everyone to “get with the program,” but more and more are waking up and getting wise to “the program,” pulling themselves up by the bootstraps to create their own programs.

For We, the Elite, it’s all about “Build Back Better.”

For We, the People, it’s all about “Exit and Build.”

Exit is shorthand for “exit the big cities, the ‘smart’ cities,” which are growing more problematic by the day. Build is shorthand for “build new communities of resilient homesteads that don’t rely on centralized systems of food production.” Think instead of “regenerative agriculture.”

Remember what I said about impeccability being a social virtue, not a moral virtue?

Members of the Big Club have always known that time and place are critical pieces for keeping up appearances, but what they might not care to understand is that impeccability, when it lacks honesty or integrity, looks rather different to those with scruples. Said members enjoy “the Art of the Lie,” if you catch my meaning, and they’ve become rather good at making things up as they go.

So let’s enrich our imaginations for evil a little so that we can be a little more discerning.

Under the guise of a pandemic, what with its lockdowns and pushdowns, the most direct route to starving selected populations is to follow this causal link: “no fuel, no fertilizer, no food.” A gradual shutdown of fossil fuels (coal, oil, gas) is one very effective route to mass starvation.

Under the guise of a pandemic, a slow and steady cull of the human herd requires only two methods: (1) a fatal, slow-acting pathogenic priming agent posing as a vaccine, and (2) a scarcity of fuel or fertilizer. In the ensuing chaos and conflict, the culling can be brought to completion.

The booster shots, calibrated for “slow and steady,” would ensure this.

For method 1 to work well, however, different agents of death with different doses administered in different phases of the experiment (and yes, this is an experiment) would have to be implemented under an Emergency Use Authorization, so as to not kill the entire herd in one go.

This, in tandem with a shield of legal liability, which is also in place.

For method 2 to work well, four tactics in tandem would do the trick: (1) interrupt the supply of fuel (and therefore the supply of fertilizer); (2) interrupt the supply of fertilizer (and therefore the supply of food); (3) raise the price of fuel in response to higher demand (and therefore the price of fertilizer); and (4) keep raising the price of fertilizer (and therefore the price of food).

Interestingly, the CCP in China is planning on building many nuclear reactors in the years ahead to offset its reliance on coal. A clear indicator that the Silent War being waged across this planet has come to an end is when “free” energy begins to displace the need for nuclear energy.

I realize this is heavy stuff, but forewarned is forearmed.

A Dark Winter awaits us all ~ dark in the sense that the informed among us don’t really know how all of this is going to play out, and dark in the sense that the informed among us don’t yet know which narrative will ultimately prevail ~ that of We, the Elite, or that of We, the People.

Now let’s get back on the main road to sanctuary with impeccability along for the ride.

My Word, My Wand

I confess: the darkness that pervades this world at this time has, for me, been a potent catalyst for the growth of wisdom in terms of how much attention I’ve been willing to pay to my own thoughts, my words, my actions, my habits, my character, and, ultimately, my own destiny.

I drew on Taoist wisdom to capture this confession as follows:


as I welcome my thoughts, I remain mindful of my words
as I remain mindful of my words, I pay heed to my actions
as I pay heed to my actions, I take heed of my habits
as I take heed of my habits, I give credit to my character
as I give credit to my character, I pay homage to my destiny
as I pay homage to my destiny, I welcome your thoughts
as I welcome your thoughts, I remain mindful of my words

In view of this snapshot, I feel the pull of this agreement:

stay true to your word

When I feel called to check my assumptions when someone or something invites me to give up my equilibrium and equanimity; when I feel called to check my assumptions before I indulge any urge to take “it” personally; and when I feel called to check my assumptions before I slack off from being or doing my best, I recall the agreement to “stay true to your word” in the following context:


say what you mean
mean what you say

stay true to your wish
be honest, speak truth

stay true to your word
both word and action

pure, positive, perfect

Pure, positive, perfect effects, results, and outcomes signal alignment with impeccability, but it all begins with “say what you mean, mean what you say,” with the constant reminder that “thoughts become things.” As I welcome my thoughts, I do well to remain mindful of my words.

We all know, if we pay attention, that thoughts can either be reflexive or reflective: they can either (1) arise involuntarily (in which case, do the amor fati by way of meditation) or (2) we can have them arise voluntarily (in which case, be a master of your destiny through reflection).

Words, then, can either be weird, wild, and worried, or . . . they can be absolutely wonderful ~ but only in context. When I remain impeccable with my word, treating my word as my wand, I feel compelled to speak or write my words with care ~ are they honest? are they sincere?

Moreover, are they impeccable? Are they appropriate, correct, fitting, or proper for time and place? Are they impeccable even when there’s a time and a place for offering a sliver of insincerity or dishonesty to sidestep or bypass a situation where I might do more harm than good?

And what of those weird, wild, worried words that come from within or without? Do I give them enough time and space to speak their twisted, tortured truth? Or am I inclined to shut them down, making it next to impossible for me to be wholly real, true, good, right, fair, fine, pure?

The Stoics of ancient Greece were famous for what they called the art of acquiescence ~ to accept, rather than reject, “every little thing.” And yes, there is wisdom in this prescription, but they took it further by urging us to enjoy what happens, as it happens, whatever that might be.

I captured the essence of this amor fati as follows:

seek not that everything happens as you would wish,
but rather, enjoy everything that happens, as it wills

Talk about cultivating the utmost in clarity, harmony, and serenity by way of equanimity.

But could this attitude be the epitome of toxic masculinity? Or maybe the epitome of toxic positivity? To the manly Stoics, one might ask: and what about the women and children? I mean, what could be more invalidating than to use their trials as fodder for personal transformation?

I think of kintsugi, the process of restoring cracked ceramics traditionally with lacquer and gold, and leaving a gold seam where the crack or cracks used to be. The result speaks to the aesthetic of wabi-sabi; the piece itself is often as strikingly beautiful as the original, if not more so.

Is a fault or a flaw truly a fault or a flaw if it can be transformed into a source of being and knowing, learning and growing, healing and flowing? Critical feedback is often given as a source of instruction and direction, but when such feedback is delivered in ways that are mean rather than kind, that aim to shame or cause harm rather than uplift, who wants to be seen as critical?

Instead of speaking of critical feedback, why not speak of crucial feedback?

Crucial feedback is neither severe nor unfavorable ~ it is merely worthy and deserving enough to be delivered in the most caring and favorable way, and, with a finger on the pulse of vulnerability, delivered mercifully ~ or at least delivered with some measure of trust and/or respect.

A cold, hard truth about this world at this time is that anyone who would make a habit of preying on personal weakness and vulnerability is not only a moral monster, but a potential destroyer of the social fabric that would serve and protect civil discourse and dignified conduct.

We hear a lot about the value or virtue of dispensing constructive criticism, but no matter how well-meaning or well-intentioned such criticism might be, if it’s delivered in ways and by means that invalidate, denigrate, humiliate, or excoriate, then what’s the point in delivering it?

Whether physical or psychological, financial or emotional, abuse is abuse, pure and simple.

Any deliberate move made to downgrade or one-up another unfairly, without provocation, is parasitical at best, predatory at worst, but can we nevertheless find value in digesting critical constructive feedback, even if it’s delivered in a way that feels rather mean-spirited or unfair?

Perhaps this feedback is made for the sake of efficiency ~ not to be taken personally. Where might the learning and growing be found in such feedback, if only to become more resilient to said feedback?

Perhaps a practice can be made of giving and receiving criticism that seems too mean or unfair for its own good, not to grow a thick skin, but to test, teach, and train ourselves and each other to have and hold firm boundaries. Perhaps then we can even rise to the challenge of learning to give crucial constructive feedback without hurting or harming anyone’s feelings in the process.

How do you feel about giving and receiving critical constructive feedback? Do you see such feedback as an open wound getting poked over and over again? Have you learned to strive and thrive under the pressure of receiving such feedback? Or do you indulge the tendency to personalize and rationalize even as you become defensive and offensive in the heat of the moment?

Or is this too personal a question?

This Russian proverb might help . . .

confront difficulty with the mind;
confront danger with experience!

The first type of confrontation is reflective; we have time to reflect on the matter at hand before saying or doing anything rash, whereas the second type is reflexive; that is, we have only enough time to react to the matter at hand with experience, with prior testing or training.

Also, a sudden confrontation can feel dangerous, but with experience, we can know without a doubt that it is merely difficult. By the same token, a sudden confrontation can feel difficult, but with experience, we can know without a doubt just how dangerous it can become.

Both serve: experience with discernment and discernment through experience.

As a general rule, it is always prudent to put yourself out there (be open; be honest : who are you? how do you feel?) to gain experience with and through discernment, just as it is always prudent to put yourself out there to gain credibility with discernment in the school of hard knocks.


Protocol 1 : confront difficulty with the mind

Outline a plan before any confrontation with difficulty; ideally, it should never be spur-of-the-moment. Choose your words with care and never apologize for your point of view. Reflect back the opposing view with calm and confidence before you attempt to propose an ideal solution.

Protocol 2 : confront danger with experience

Fear constricts the reflexive mind, closing it off to inner or outer guidance. In light of this precaution, it cannot be emphasized enough just how important it is to relax into the grip of fear from a witness perspective while remaining mindful of any guidance that arises in the moment.

In view of these protocols, we can better appreciate the wisdom of using the Word to speak on behalf of ourselves (no putdowns) and others (no gossip), as well as the wisdom of using the Word to keep moving in directions that foster our relationships with truth, love, and wisdom.

Of course, there are consequences for taking a stand and standing up for yourself in the face of illegitimate authority, and what better way to do this than to craft your words with care and to conduct yourself, not through the bane of arrogance, but with a steady train of confidence.

And so now, I counsel myself: “stay true to your word ~ whenever, wherever possible ~ for the simple reason that your words have the power to shape your life with love and light, not only for an entire lifetime, but for all of your lifetimes to come, in and out of incarnation.”

Perhaps it is here and now, despite difficulty or danger, that sanctuary is impeccably found.

Now let’s give some attention to a deeper, broader context in this world at this time ~ a context informed by what I call “death and dearth” ~ in a proper bid to incorporate and elaborate the aforementioned psychic blueprint on the way to finding sanctuary both within and without.

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Note to readers: this post is the sixth in a series on finding sanctuary. As I post each one to my blog, I’ll be placing it into Sanctuary under the Resource tab in the Navigation menu at the top of this site

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