My Induction into Perfection

by Christopher Lovejoy on June 23, 2021

Consider: “I allow myself to be perfect in all that I say and do.”

This allowance of being contains a word that resonates differently with everyone. In my previous post, Purpose, Passion . . . Purity?, I touched on perfection as it pertains to purity. In this post, I explore the viability of perfection as a way to approach a realization of ultimate fulfillment.

As I noted earlier, perfection implies three states of being:

1) perfection as completion (the psychological conception)
2) perfection as absolution (the ethical conception)
3) perfection as consummation (the spiritual conception)

In view of these modes of perfection, one can speak of absolute perfection as the standard by which to sense and gauge the modes of perfection listed above. In the same breath, one can also speak of pursuing perfection as compensation for not having yet reached absolute perfection.

One can speak to the perfect appearance, the perfect conformance, or the perfect performance; that is, one can speak of cultivating an image of perfection, of living, loving, and learning in accordance with the standard of perfection, or of practicing to perform at the peak of perfection.

To embody and experience absolute perfection, consider this checklist:

1) absolute perfection: begin with a personal vision of timeless perfection
2) perfection as reception: allow for imperfection as contrast for perfection
3) perfection as compensation: move through perfection as compensation
4) perfection as contemplation: contemplate the many modes of perfection

5) perfection as completion: know and love the heart and soul to completion
6) perfection as absolution: absolve the self of wrongdoing (actual and apparent)
7) perfection as consummation: perfect the spirit with and through experience
8) absolute perfection: embody and experience a vision of timeless perfection

I invite you to welcome, or at least ponder, your ideals of the perfect appearance (through your sense of psychological completion), the perfect conformance (through your sense of ethical absolution), and the perfect performance (through your sense of spiritual consummation).

Why is Perfection Given Such a Bad Rap?

The answer as to why perfection is disparaged with false accusation and exaggerated charges of undesirability is quite simple: there is simply too much at stake to do otherwise, as perfection magnetizes feelings of entitlement and omnipotence, both of which place one outside “the group.”

Evolutionarily speaking, “the group” sought to ensure, if not perfect, the means of survival, safety, and security for “everyone.” To give even the appearance of not contributing to “the group” or of going against “the group” was to put one at risk of dishonor, abandonment, or even exile.

To this day, human beings are driven by the fear of alienating “the almighty group.”

And so, the disparagements of perfection are many. Here’s a representative sample:

  • if I keep looking for perfection, I’ll never be content
  • when I stop expecting people to be perfect, I’ll be able to like them for who they are
  • I simply have no fear of perfection because I know I’ll never reach it
  • I have no faith in human perfectibility

First, consider that perfection need not be a matter of must or should; it is simply food and fuel for aspiration and inspiration. Second, consider that perfection can be a matter of personal preference: “it is my perfectibility that counts.” Third, consider that perfection need not be pursued, but merely sought and brought to fruition indirectly, with a sustained focus on process, not product.

Together, these considerations free up energy to welcome, invite, and allow perfection.

But why would anyone be preoccupied with appearing, conforming, or performing perfectly? Why would anyone be self-conscious about reaching completion, absolution, and consummation? And why would anyone be preoccupied with seeking, finding, and reaching absolute perfection?

Here’s a hint: these preoccupations have to do with feeling worthy and deserving, but they go beyond just feeling loved, trusted, respected, and esteemed. Perfection (as manifested through appearance, conformance, and performance) is paramount ~ the ultimate catalyst for growth.

You’ll see why in my next post.

But only if you can disentangle “sensing and gauging perfection” from “feeling worthy and deserving.”


It is difficult to be happy, unless one is good looking, intelligent, rich, and creative
If I do not do well all the time, people will not respect me
If a person asks for help, it is a sign of weakness

If I do not do as well as other people, it means I am an inferior human being
If I fail at my work, then I am a failure as a person
If you cannot do something well, there is little point in doing it at all

If someone disagrees with me, it probably indicates that he does not like me
If I fail partly, it is as bad as a complete failure
If other people know what you’re really like, they will think less of you

If I am to be a worthwhile person, I must be truly outstanding in at least one major respect
If I ask a question, it makes me look inferior

Agree or disagree? And to what degree?

Remember, “the almighty group.”

Source: DAS-A-17


one need not be perfect; one need only welcome, invite, and allow for perfection

~ yours

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