A Vision for Your Passing

by Christopher Lovejoy on July 27, 2019

try to embody a vision without distortion,
without sedation, and without distraction,
then let me know how that works for you

In bringing closure to my post, A Cat on the Edge of a Ledge, I made a statement about incarnational death that might have raised more than a few eyebrows. Here it is again from a causal point of you:

In view of any contemplation of following the pathless path, a thoughtful consideration of the manner of my own death not only serves as an anchor for my current incarnation, it also lends a valuable clue to the ultimate theme of my life in this incarnation.

In a lead-up to this statement, I queried as follows (and I quote verbatim) … Now imagine a scenario where your passing from this life is one of unimaginable peace, or bliss, or ecstasy (take your pick). Are you lying and dying in peace, in a bed fit for a queen or a king surrounded by family and friends? In your bliss, has life dealt you a sudden and fatal blow? In a fit of ecstasy, do you see life passing before your very eyes? In what manner do you wish to die, to pass from this life into the life review?

For reasons not yet apparent to me, I now feel compelled to explore and examine this latter question for myself: In what manner do I wish to die, to pass from this life into the life review? In posing this admittedly provocative question, a chorus of questions immediately resounds:

life review?

Can you hear them resound chorus-like inside your ear, dear reader? And are you going to let them sway you from giving yourself the gift of “a thoughtful consideration of the manner of your own death?”

For your sake, I truly hope not, as my intent here is pure.

Let us move together beyond the energy of spiritual adolescence and give ourselves some truly thoughtful and considerate energy to these grave matters in the light of these provocative questions.


Common responses to any consideration of how one might pass away are to say something to the effect that “I’ll cross that bridge when I get there,” or “I’ll put myself in the hands of God when the time comes,” or “I’ll likely have no way of predicting when or how I pass from this world.”

Points all well taken, for the death of the body just might come at any time, when it’s least expected, and the duration of its dying might well be short or long or somewhere in between, and with any body, healthy or not, is there really any point in trying to predict how it might die?

Please understand that I am not proposing that we predict with any precision how our bodies will die, how the vessels of our souls will grow cold and empty, how the vehicles for our spirits will cease to function, how the last breath will be taken. I am proposing something more.

Much more.

Let us begin here:

who? you
what? the death of your body
when? to be influenced
where? to be influenced
why? to be influenced
how? to be influenced

Note well, in saying “to be influenced,” I am not saying “to be determined.” Note well, too, in light of the many lines of evidence that we do not die, I am not saying “the death of you,” but rather “the death of your body,” and here, I mean to say “the death of your body incarnate.”

Before proceeding, I invite you to pause and contemplate these worlds of difference.


Let us now turn to the chorus of questions that was raised above. For ease of reference, here again is the relevant question: In what manner do I wish to die, to pass from this life into the life review? Here, I would also add: in what manner do I wish to experience this passage?

In having the audacity to pose these questions at all, one might be fairly accused of playing God, but the point here is to (a) raise awareness around the most momentous transitional event in life, and (b) exercise some influence on the experience before the transition occurs.

Here’s a response that might have some appeal: I wish to pass in my sleep and leave this world in peace. A more controversial version of this response, in keeping with the Law of Attraction, might be …

I intend to pass in my sleep, when the time feels right, and leave this world in peace.

This second, stronger response is not unlike an anchor for a life lived in peace, underpinning experiences of love, joy, bliss, grace, and ease born of balance and discipline, satisfaction and fulfillment. Here, the question of your passing quickly becomes a question for your living.

A peaceful life will, more likely than not, lead to a peaceful passing.

In light of this revelation, let’s personalize the frame offered above:

who? me, a soul and spirit embodied densely
what? the death of my dense incarnational body
when? when I feel the time and timing are right
where? in comfort, in a fine and private place
why? to be ascertained when the time comes
how? a natural, peaceful passing in my sleep

As an existential anchor, this manner and experience of passing cannot help but inform (and maybe even inspire) one to lead a life lived in peace (love, joy, bliss, grace, ease). Given this understanding, I am not at all suggesting that this is the only valid manner and experience, but it is one that could well serve as a universal baseline from which to consider and contemplate any other type of manner and experience.


I trust that I’ve given you enough food for thought to explore your own death in life. Be not afraid to explore the questions posed above for yourself, and please never forget that only you yourself can envision the manner and experience of your own passing for the sake of your own living.

try to embody a vision without distortion,
without sedation, and without distraction,
then let me know how that works for you

The emphasis here is not on perfection, but on participation.


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