Ultimate Fulfillment 16

by Christopher Lovejoy on July 27, 2014

Any fruitful construction and discussion of a Self (of a True Self, of a Self as Art) requires a discussion of the ego, of the I, of das Ich. Perhaps a new awareness was born in this world when the notion behind this Latin term ego was conceived and established in Germany during the 1780s as a psychoanalytical fixture long before Sigmund Freud came on the scene. Speaking of Freud, he is reputed to have said something quite interesting about das Ich:

The ego is not master in its own house

This negative, negating statement gives me pause.

Not master in its own house?

I cannot help but rejoin: if not, why not?

If conventional dictionary definitions are anything to go by, the ego is many things to many people.

To some, it’s “the self of an individual person, the conscious subject”, although I must confess, from an egoic point of view, I don’t much like the sound of this word subject. Subject to what, exactly?

Aside: from a cosmic perspective, this question – “subject to what, exactly?” – is actually one of the very best (albeit difficult) questions anyone can ask, and deserves a serious and considered response.

To others, it’s the image of oneself and the morale (or lack of morale) associated with it, such that a strong self-image comes with a strong belief in oneself in the face of opposition or hardship.

To yet others, the ego is synonymous with conceit, with an exaggerated sense of self-importance, with an unusually high opinion of oneself, with a strong tendency to criticize or condemn others.

To psychoanalytic types, the ego both modifies and is modified, as follows: “the conscious mind, based on perception of the environment from birth onwards, responsible for modifying the anti-social instincts (of the Id), and itself modified by the conscience (the Superego).”

Curiously, it seems that the ego can be read as positive, negative, or neutral in its connotation, making me wonder: could there be a more ambivalently held or ambiguously used term than the ego?

As far as I have been able to determine, a True Self is composed of these facets:

  1. a soul
  2. a witness
  3. a will
  4. a spirit
  5. an ego

If a soul can dwell peacefully and if a spirit can flow blissfully, and as the witness observes, “letting be and letting go”, while the will serves to “make it so”, then who regulates the what, the when, the where?

With No Self, the three deep, dark fears of being spiritual in human form are absent; with the emergence of a consciously cultivated Self as Art, these three master teachers make their presence known.

Fear comes and goes in many forms and guises; it’s not only the most insidious and prevalent emotion in human affairs, it’s also the most challenging one to expose and release, to process and transform.

As spiritual beings in human form, we can only consciously process (expose, release, hide, suppress, handle, manage, tolerate, integrate, appreciate) so much information and emotion at one time.

True, some of us are better (more effective, more efficient) at it than others, but what makes them better? Could there be a way to level the playing field, so that more of us get to be better at it?

In my next post, I take up the task of creating an energetic structure for a True Self in contrast to No Self, an energetic matrix of the heart to consciously cultivate and celebrate a masterful Self as Art.

While being mindful of the tendency to sweep dirt under rugs.

I invite you to embody wisdom as a True Self in balance, as a soulfully motivated spirit of divinity, as a spiritually inspired soul who is ready, willing, and able to join the One as a sovereign creator.




a message for our times: “be true, be wise, be free; love is the key”




(Setting the context)


The syntactical nature of reality, the real secret of magic,
is that the world is made of words, and if you know the words that the world is made of,
you can make of it whatever you wish ~ Terence McKenna

consider this truth: “there is no truth”: true or false? if true, then false; if false, then true

words are powerful, as and when they are spoken in the light of truth, love, and wisdom




(A cosmic perspective)

Previous study: the cosmic life review (learn more)

Current study: a cosmic perspective on birth, life, and death

View this page to explore the basic issues




The ethical imperative: guard guide your eyes, guard guide your thoughts, guard guide your steps

What the cosmic life review indicates we do in the earthly realm: (1) sanctify; (2) purify; (3) justify

Does “what does it take to be fulfilled?” = “what does it take to be sanctified, purified, justified?”?




Proposal: our prime directive as a species is finding the balance

  • finding the balance between soul (being) and spirit (becoming)
  • finding the balance between being perfectly full and becoming perfectly filled
  • finding the balance between living soulfully (truly, deeply) and living spiritually (wisely, freely)




(A context for living life to the fullest)

proposal to universalize human need:

need 1: “a safe place to eat and sleep”
need 2: “a way to satisfy all my needs”
need 3: “someone to love and cherish”
need 4: “a healthy, vital outlook on life”

a vital distinction to observe in daily life:
satisfaction of need v. fulfillment of desire

the body is but a vessel for soul,
serving to contain all that the soul needs;
the body is but a vehicle for spirit,
serving to convey all that the spirit desires;

how might body serve to contain and convey
both soul and spirit as vessel and vehicle?

soul spirit

unity harmony
peace bliss
love joy
being becoming
loving caring
intimacy ecstasy
quality vitality
encounter experience
sacred divine
promise possibility
realization evolution
truth wisdom
responsibility freedom
depth height
inward outward
descend ascend
contemplation evaluation
involvement engagement
satisfaction fulfillment
cultivation celebration
dwelling peacefully flowing blissfully
heart of soul soul of spirit
contains conveys
accepts expects
let it be make it so
receptive assertive
attuned to what is required aligned with what is desired
awakening enlightenment
being alive being alive




(A practice for living life to the fullest)


exploring …

the ways and means by which I can be centred in love
the ways and means by which I can follow (or manifest!) a path with heart
the ways and means by which I can be love truly and wisely

if the first pointer serves to expose the truth of who and what I am,
and if the second serves to reveal the meaning, purpose, and direction of my life,
then the third serves to realize a dynamic balance between my soul and spirit


the three deep, dark fears of spiritual beings in human form

1) a fear of letting go during sexual orgasm (the sexual fear)
2) a fear of losing control, of losing one’s mind (the political fear)
3) a fear of dying in pain, in anguish, in misery (the religious fear)

dysfunctional, maladaptive, unsustainable ways to maintain personal control
(here presented as pairs: a passive matter of soul, an active matter of spirit)












when life gives you lemons, turn them into lemonade ~ a popular proverb

how people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours ~ wayne dyer




(a global perspective: why is humanity failing to fulfill its true potential?)

weaving a terrestrial narrative that aligns with a cosmic perspective, including historical, interdimensional, extraterrestrial, conspiratorial, and eschatological elements, is an exhaustive process

such a terrestrial narrative would have us explore and expose the causes and consequences of two widespread (and related) social phenomena: cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement

the story of Howard Storm: how a visit to The Other Side cured his soul and spirit of cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement, transmuting his contempt for humanity into compassion and compersion

If darkness is your problem, talking about darkness won’t help.
If darkness is your problem, nothing can be done about darkness directly.
You cannot throw it out, you cannot push it out, you cannot switch it off.
Darkness is an absence. Nothing can be done about it directly.
If you have to do anything, you have to do something with the light, not with darkness.

~ Osho (Fear: Understanding and Accepting the Insecurities of Life, p. 136)




1. “I just can’t stand it anymore … why go on?”

2. “Wrong body, wrong family, wrong planet … why?”

3. “Why am I making such a mess of my life?”

4. “What does it really take to be (become) fulfilled in this life?”

5. Soul: “a sound approach to being perfect: possible?”

6. Spirit: “a sane approach to becoming perfect: desirable?”

7. The ultimate in truth, love, and power: dare we ask?


Study Notes


  • incorporate the use of symbols with these elements: sphere (soul), spiral (spirit), pyramid
  • presence and pretense: best to view them as complementary, rather than as mutually exclusive?
  • follow these elements of perspective: form, structure, substance, orientation, appearance
  • the devil challenge (problem, difficulty, obstacle, inadequacy, struggle, conflict) is in the details
  • the privileged among us: a little too preoccupied with celebrity, technology, personality, positivity?
  • extroverts and introverts: “living on the surface” and “living from the depths with presence”
  • the cosmic life review: a representation of the ultimate in personal fulfillment for a life lived?


* TUiPF = The Ultimate in Personal Fulfillment

Next: Ultimate Fulfillment 17

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective


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