Ultimate Fulfillment 12

by Christopher Lovejoy on June 29, 2014

In my previous post, I broached the three deepest, darkest fears of being spiritual in human form. Central to this three-pronged pitchfork of fears is the fear of losing control, of losing one’s mind.

This personal political fear of losing the ability or willingness to govern one’s affairs reasonably and effectively manifests indirectly on the surface of daily life in a multitude of ways: as a fear of not being good enough, of not being smart enough or savvy enough, of not being wise enough, capable enough, effective or attractive enough, of not being competent enough or accomplished enough.

This central fear is also confused with a fear of life, a fear of failure, a fear of success.

As far as I can see, no one I know is afraid of success per se (who doesn’t aim to be a success by their own definition?) and no one I know is afraid of life (although fearful people do exploit the energies of life).

Most everyone, however, is afraid of failure, but many if not most people understand that minor failures are stepping stones to success and that any major failure can eventually be managed and transformed.

In light of the foregoing, I propose the following: the central personal political fear of being at the mercy of forces over which no control can be exercised is indirectly responsible for the other two fears of letting go during sexual orgasm and of dying in pain, anguish, and/or misery.

The implication of this proposal is this: if we can summon the will and the willingness to bring love and care to the fear of losing control, then we’re well on our way to losing the other two fears.

It wasn’t too long ago that I was at a hot springs in Banff, Alberta. What struck me most about the people (of all ages) in the hot pool on a cold day was how serene they appeared. Their movements were relaxed, unforced. They all seemed so naturally loving, trusting, and forgiving, which as far as I’m concerned are the prime energies for letting go during sexual orgasm and for making peace with the prospect of dying.

Absent the fear of losing control (in all of its manifestations), spiritual beings in human form are naturally loving and trusting, and forgiving of one another’s apparent miss steps and miss takes. Again, with appropriate and consistent care given to the fear of losing control, the fear of letting go during sexual orgasm and the fear of dying in pain, anguish, and/or misery pretty much take care of themselves.

In other words, there’s no real need to dwell on the fear – only the love and care – as and when we recognize the value and significance of “energy flows where attention goes”.




a message for our times: “be true, be wise, be free; love is the key”




(Setting the context)


The syntactical nature of reality, the real secret of magic,
is that the world is made of words, and if you know the words that the world is made of,
you can make of it whatever you wish ~ Terence McKenna

consider this truth: “there is no truth”: true or false? if true, then false; if false, then true

words are powerful, as and when they are spoken in the light of truth, love, and wisdom




(A cosmic perspective)

Previous study: the cosmic life review (learn more)

Current study: a cosmic perspective on birth, life, and death

View this page to explore the basic issues




The ethical imperative: guard guide your eyes, guard guide your thoughts, guard guide your steps

What the cosmic life review indicates we do in the earthly realm: (1) sanctify; (2) purify; (3) justify

Does “what does it take to be fulfilled?” = “what does it take to be sanctified, purified, justified?”?




Proposal: our prime directive as a species is finding the balance

  • finding the balance between soul (being) and spirit (becoming)
  • finding the balance between being perfectly full and becoming perfectly filled
  • finding the balance between living soulfully (truly, deeply) and living spiritually (wisely, freely)




(A context for living life to the fullest)

proposal to universalize human need:

need 1: “a safe place to eat and sleep”
need 2: “a way to satisfy all my needs”
need 3: “someone to love and cherish”
need 4: “a healthy, vital outlook on life”

a vital distinction to observe in daily life:
satisfaction of need v. fulfillment of desire

the body is but a vessel for soul,
serving to contain all that the soul needs;
the body is but a vehicle for spirit,
serving to convey all that the spirit desires;

how might body serve to contain and convey
both soul and spirit as vessel and vehicle?




(A practice for living life to the fullest)


exploring …

the ways and means by which I can be centred in love
the ways and means by which I can follow (or manifest!) a path with heart
the ways and means by which I can be love truly and wisely

if the first pointer serves to expose the truth of who and what I am,
and if the second serves to reveal the meaning, purpose, and direction of my life,
then the third serves to realize a dynamic balance between my soul and spirit

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours ~ Wayne Dyer




(a global perspective: why is humanity failing to fulfill its true potential?)

weaving a terrestrial narrative that aligns with a cosmic perspective, including historical, interdimensional, extraterrestrial, conspiratorial, and eschatological elements, is an exhaustive process

such a terrestrial narrative would have us explore and expose the causes and consequences of two widespread (and related) social phenomena: cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement

the story of Howard Storm: how a visit to The Other Side cured his soul and spirit of cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement, transmuting his contempt for humanity into compassion and compersion

If darkness is your problem, talking about darkness won’t help.
If darkness is your problem, nothing can be done about darkness directly.
You cannot throw it out, you cannot push it out, you cannot switch it off.
Darkness is an absence. Nothing can be done about it directly.
If you have to do anything, you have to do something with the light, not with darkness.

~ Osho (Fear: Understanding and Accepting the Insecurities of Life, p. 136)




1. “I just can’t stand it anymore … why go on?”

2. “Wrong body, wrong family, wrong planet … why?”

3. “Why am I making such a mess of my life?”

4. “What does it really take to be (become) fulfilled in this life?”

5. Soul: “a sound approach to being perfect: possible?”

6. Spirit: “a sane approach to becoming perfect: desirable?”

7. The ultimate in truth, love, and power: dare we ask?


Study Notes


  • incorporate the use of symbols with these elements: sphere (soul), spiral (spirit), pyramid
  • presence and pretense: best to view them as complementary, rather than as mutually exclusive?
  • follow these elements of perspective: form, structure, substance, orientation, appearance
  • the devil challenge (problem, difficulty, obstacle, inadequacy, struggle, conflict) is in the details
  • the privileged among us: a little too preoccupied with celebrity, technology, personality, positivity?
  • extroverts and introverts: “living on the surface” and “living from the depths with presence”
  • the cosmic life review: a representation of the ultimate in personal fulfillment for a life lived?


* TUiPF = The Ultimate in Personal Fulfillment

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Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective

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