The Best is Yes to Come

by Christopher Lovejoy on July 7, 2018

My world is full of blessings in disguise. How about yours?

I keep resisting all of its latent goodness with all manner of fears, doubts, worries, and concerns, and yet, it keeps showing up, keeps showing me all the ways in which I can claim as much goodness as I can handle, conspiring to bring me all that I could possibly need, and then some.

It’s a veritable embarrassment of riches.

Now imagine your favorite person, place, or thing; imagine having the ability to make it appear here and now without a second thought; and imagine doing this with anything that your heart desires.

Some very credible people have stated that when they crossed over to the other side, they became capable of having whatever they could imagine in the very moment they imagined it.

Let’s call it “manifesting at the speed of light.”

I don’t know about you but this sort of ability could get old really fast. Just think of it: having whatever you wanted, whenever and wherever you wanted, however and with whomever you wanted.

And then imagine losing heart and trapping yourself like a bug in a web for eternity.

Thankfully, in this physical, temporal realm we call reality, we have a significant time delay built into our innate powers to manifest, not unlike mini gods of creation moving underwater in slow motion.

This time delay makes it possible for me to share the following 15 tips that say “yes” to life, where I dish the good, the bad, and the ugly of daring greatly to experience success inside a box.

1) Expand your comfort zone

Why do we have comfort zones in the first place?

Because life can be get really, really challenging.

If it weren’t for the time delay, there would be no experience of fear and frustration, and without them, how could anyone learn and grow? And yet, the comfort zone offers room to breathe.

Sometimes, though, we get too comfortable, which is why it is advisable to expand our comfort zones on occasion, or as often as we feel is necessary to learn what we need to know to grow.

Here, saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to moving and stretching beyond the comfort zone more often than not without snapping back and saying “no! no more! I just can’t take it anymore!”

2) Never, ever, ever give up …

Let me be clear about this one. I am not saying never give up that which no longer serves you. No. What I am saying is never, ever, ever give up on what you know to be your true heart’s desire.

That’s it. It’s that simple.

Saying “yes” to life is simply saying “yes” to finding and/or meeting your true heart’s desire.

3) Know when to call it quits

Sometimes, it’s not always clear when to keep going with an activity or a course of action that is bringing resistance to every little thing you say and do. Get a clue when the resistance mounts.

This advice is a bit tricky, though. Any mounting resistance requires some careful interpretation. Does it mean “pause, breathe, smile, and tweak?” Or does it mean “dude, it’s time to call it quits”?

Fortunately, for the sake of our learning and growing, only we can be the judge of this.

Saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to calling it quits when you know that it serves you.

4) Expect the best, prep for the worst

On a personal note, I have never had too much trouble expecting the best from most everything I see, say, and do. Anticipating and accepting the worst, however, has never been my strong suit.

Could it be because I am mentally blind?

My aphantasia (not being able to conjure mental imagery) is both a blessing and a curse ~ a blessing because it helps me stay rooted in the present moment, a curse because in the absence of being able to imagine both the best and the worst, I am more inclined to find myself in contemplation.

Which, of course, is not such a bad thing.

Thing is, I am not so inspired to seek the best and not so motivated to anticipate the worst. For me, and I can only speak for myself here, saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to the present moment.

5) Focus on what you desire

The flipside to putting and keeping your attention on what you want is putting and keeping your attention on what you don’t want, increasing your chances of getting what you don’t want.

Mounting fear and frustration from trying to bypass the time delay will do this to you.

And so it helps to know what you desire. The science is also saying that it helps to know what might get in the way of what you desire so that you can sidestep the anticipated obstacles.

Saying “yes” to life, then, is saying “yes”, not only to your desire, but to the moves you make to go and flow around obstacles that get in the way of meeting and greeting your desire.

6) Take it one day at a time

This advice is given when things get really tough.

That is, when the time delay stretches to eternity.

The usual form that this advice takes is to “take it one day at a time,” but it can also be adapted to apply to difficult situations where the mud is especially thick: “take it one moment at a time.”

Regardless of form, the advice is sound because it speaks to finding your faith in trust.

Saying “yes” to life, then, is saying “yes” to moving forward, no matter how difficult it might seem. Just stay the course one day (or one moment) at a time. Keep moving forward.

The night is darkest before the dawn.

7) Always keep moving forward

The biological science is clear: when a shark stops moving, it dies. By way of analogy, when you lose your edge, when you stop moving forward, your dream or desire begins to die.

Keep moving forward.

Keep learning, improving, or doing something new or different each and every day, even if what you do is Kaizen ~ taking small continuous steps along the way to meeting your desire.

Saying “yes” to life, then, is saying “yes” to moving forward with small steps to reap big gains, even if this means doing what little you can with what you little you have along the way.

8) Just decide to get moving

Sometimes, we are stopped cold in our tracks. The entanglements of an interaction seem hopelessly impossible to negotiate. The requirements of a situation seem hopelessly impossible to navigate.

What if we can’t decide what to say or do?

The answer is stupid simple: call a timeout (or not) and just decide to get moving again, or at the very least, just firm up the resolve to keep moving or to get moving again.

Just remember: indecision is no excuse for inaction; a good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow. Here, saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to good enough.

9) Measure the measurable

If possible, and if you deem it desirable, measure the measurable.

Anything that is monitored and measured over time in keeping with the time delay is bound to improve because it follows this fundamental principle: “energy flows where attention goes.”

If your attention is on continuous improvement, guess what happens? Continuous improvement. Sounds obvious, I know, but it pays to keep it in mind when you’re aiming to improve.

Even subjective measures, using scales of subjective value from 1 to 10, can be useful.

Saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to keeping your focus on measurable improvements.

10) Need a problem to solve?

One good way to stay on top of your game is to look for potential problems in your life by shedding some light in those areas of your life where you haven’t had time to sweep.

If you do this, you will usually find something in need of attention. Here, saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to clearing the cobwebs in service to having a stitch in time save nine.

11) Progress is not perfection

From a great (physical) distance, the earth appears quite placid and peaceful. Likewise, from a great (psychological) distance, the lives of other people can sometimes appear quite perfect.

Do not be fooled.

Most persons, by virtue of being here on this planet at this time, are spiritual works in progress, and where there is progress, there is simply progress on the way to seeming perfection.

Also, what might be perfect for others might not be perfect for you, and so, do not for a moment feel discouraged by the seeming progress and perfection in the lives and loves of others.

Many people have been conditioned, even programmed, to be good actors in a world that is mostly a stage and you cannot always know for sure what is happening with them or to them.

Saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to keeping your focus on your own progress.

12) The proof is in the pudding

If someone you know makes a good pudding, and if someone you know makes a bad pudding, who are you going to seek advice from on your way to making a pudding that pleases the palate?

The answer is obvious, but what about matters that extend beyond puddings?

Maybe you have a question or a concern about your family, your friends, your education, your employment, your hobbies, your finances, your real estate, or your retirement.

Saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to seeking sound advice from those who can give it. Again, stupid simple, but you’d be surprised by the lengths to which some people will go to get bad advice.

13) Never expect life to be fair

Tip number 13 is a tough one to swallow and digest, especially as and when we recall that “bad things happen to good people” and “good things happen to bad people.”

So what can be said to make it easier to swallow and digest? For me, it helps to remember that the vast moral universe in which we inhabit is polarized in terms of service.

That is, some people serve themselves almost exclusively, some people serve others more often than not, and some people serve neither themselves nor others much of the time.

Up to a point, this moral mixture is a good thing because it serves everyone by contrast, providing plenty of models for what to do and what not to do, to learn and grow through time.

Saying “yes” to life, is saying “yes” to intense catalysts that activate and/or stimulate you to learn and grow more deeply and fully inside this holographic illusion known as space and time.

14) Solve your own problems

Whenever and wherever possible, make it a habit to solve your own problems, and whenever and wherever possible, make it a habit to help others solve their problems.

Both habits can serve you well and keep you in the driver’s seat of life.

And so, saying “yes” to life is saying “yes” to wisely keeping your own counsel when it is yours to keep and saying “yes” to wisely giving away your counsel when it is yours to give.

15) Why so serious? Lighten up

Life is a beach and then you die, except that we have sound reasons to assume we never die. Not really. Having said this, we’re not going to be here forever, so why not have a good time?

If you’re feeling it (I respectfully concede that you might not be, and so, no worries, you’re always welcome to take these suggestions at another time for another go), try these on for size …

I’m so lucky to be alive.
I have a reason to smile.
I’m here for a good time.

I might also be here for a long time (and that’s okay).

I so love to follow my bliss.
I so love to go with the flow.
I so love to flow with ease.

I can laugh at my miss-takes.
I can do what comes naturally.
I can be happy for no reason.

and …

I keep saying “yes” to life …

That’s the key right there.

The best is yes to come …


This post has been filed under Application in the Ultimate Outline.

Note: my evolving outline on approaching a realization of the ultimate in personal fulfillment can be found here, accessible from the nav menu under the page “Be Here Now”.

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective

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