Integrate and Release

by Christopher Lovejoy on October 2, 2016

I am the subject to all that I have yet to realize,
and the object of all that I have come to realize

the master, doing nothing, leaves nothing undone;
the student, always doing, has so much more to do

I am the subject to all that I have yet to realize,
and the object of all that I have come to realize

In light of this uncommon wisdom, consider: if the master is an object of all that the master has come to realize, then the student remains a subject to all that the student has yet to realize.

As persons approach mastery, they cease more and more to be subjects, less and less subject to what they have yet to realize; instead, they become objects of realization, exemplars for others to follow. In reading this, I invite you to consider: wherein lies your path to mastery of ultimate fulfillment, loving and trusting yourself and others, unconditionally and universally, without condition and without expectation?

Last week, as I was watching a documentary on Gaia called Beyond Belief (produced in 2010), my curiosity was piqued when I realized the extent to which NLP was featured. NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming, and in the days that followed, I educated myself about it.

Here is what I found out …

NLP is a programming endeavor that draws on what it knows about the human brain to use language to bring about quick and lasting results in human behavior, and in turning theory into practice, practitioners came up with two sets of results: (1) a set of modelling tools to reproduce human excellence for many human endeavors; and (2) a set of processes that were archived as a result of this modelling.

NLP has many applications, all of which are highly relevant to the coming Era of Golden Consciousness: (1) it helps to manage your internal state of being; (2) it helps you to stay resourceful during stressful times; (3) it offers a high degree of behavioral flexibility in difficult situations; (4) it dramatically increases the speed and accuracy with which you can process information; (5) it can help you to become a more influential member of your family, tribe, or team; (6) it can be used to model, test, and reproduce excellence in any field of endeavor; and (7) it can even be used to model pathology (like panic attacks) to design templates to produce better content from the skills used to generate the pathology.

NLP offers a scientific model for how human beings process information, starting with the fact that up to two millions bits of information can be processed by the human nervous system in any given moment, out of which the subconscious mind can process and absorb up to 134,000 bits of this information to produce a collage – a representation of these two million bits – with this rather startling implication: a significant amount of information from reality, from the territory if you will, gets deleted, distorted, and defined into a snapshot of what is actually happening.

In any moment, the human mind (subconsciously or unconsciously, take your pick) maps the territory with pictures, sounds, smells, tastes, and sensations to produce a collage of what is most relevant to the collage maker in that moment, drawing as it does on an existing internal library of information from past experience to make the collage mean something in a process that lasts mere fractions of a second, thereby producing a feeling or a state of mind or being with a motivation or inspiration to pause or respond, act or react – or remain at peace in the moment.

It helps to know that the physical sensations produced by a collage are distinct from the meaning applied to it. For example, the intense physical sensations of terror (driving a car over a cliff) and excitement (dropping down on a roller coaster) are the same, and yet, the meaning we apply to each is obviously quite different: the first event could lead to imminent death and the second to an empty stomach.

Also, the human mind can only consciously process 7 (plus or minus 2) bits of information at a time, and so, whatever we are looking for in an internet search, for example, is eventually found to the exclusion of everything else based on the blinders we use to filter out the information most relevant to us. Confirmation bias (finding exactly what we expect to see) is not only very common, but forgivable.

We can see this confirmation bias play out daily when we human beings apply our personality filters: someone oriented towards safety and security will filter most everything on these terms; someone oriented towards belonging will be looking for ways to belong and reject those ways that threaten their sense of belonging; someone oriented towards competency will filter out anything that undermines an image of being smart and savvy, quick and accurate, effective and resilient; someone oriented towards expression will always be on the lookout for ways and means by which to express decisively and uniquely, with creativity and originality; someone oriented towards freedom will be sensitive to being subdued or enslaved, while remaining open and inspired to explore and discover robust avenues that lead to fulfillment through personal and/or collective freedom.

Your personality profile has a strong bearing on what you filter out subconsciously or unconsciously, on what you automatically store in your internal library, and on what meaning you give to the collage that arises from your assessment of the territory in which you find yourself.

There are few among us who are able to concede that they can miss anything obvious or important, and yet, we would do well to remember these key takeaways: (1) we respond to a map of reality, not to the reality itself; and (2) all meaning is subjective (ultimately subject to what is happening outside of our control (objectively, as it remains outside of our control)). Given these two concessions, we nevertheless have recourse to this palliative: “if I don’t like the way I feel about my collage, I can always alter it or adjust it to better suit my aims and desires.”

These lame excuses – “but that’s just the way it is” or “but that’s just the way I am” – can no longer be seriously entertained. With NLP, the collages and maps can be altered, adjusted, expanded, or enriched to bring about radical desirable outcomes of personal transformation.

Remember: “just because I feel a certain way about something doesn’t mean it’s true.”

Alright, it’s time for me to switch gears.

Let us consider and apply what are called “presuppositions” in NLP. In light of what I wrote in my most recent post, Unity Consciousness, these presuppositions will likely prove to be most useful for navigating, fluidly and flexibly, the coming Era of Golden Consciousness.

Word has it that these presuppositions are not beliefs, exactly – not what we would ever believe 100% of the time (because we might find counterexamples to their use). Rather, these presuppositions are viewed as attitudes that are assumed to produce desired results.

I advise that you pay close attention to the following attitudes, as they will likely be especially useful to support unconditional love and trust in the coming Era of Illumination and Elimination:

  1. behind every behavior is a positive intention – this is a variant of “everyone is just trying to do the best they can”; if they behave in ways that offend or disturb, it’s because they’re responding to a threat, attempting to deal with a difficult situation the best way they know how.
  2. there is no failure, only feedback – failure implies judgment and finality getting hooked into personal worth: “if I don’t do this, or if I do this, that’s gonna mean something is wrong with me, something is bad about me.” Replace this with a curiosity that observes and discerns.
  3. people work perfectly to produce the results they’re getting – regardless of how offended or disturbed they appear, they aren’t broken, they don’t need to be fixed, and there’s nothing wrong with them; their maps of reality serve their needs, and if desired, they can adjust the maps.
  4. the meaning of my communication is the response I get – the meaning of your communication is the response you get; the meaning of my communication is how it lands on the other; if it doesn’t land, it’s up to me to adjust it, to expand it or enrich it, as required or desired.
  5. we have all the resources we need – we have all the internal resources we need to do nothing, while leaving nothing undone, as well as the resources we need to generate more options, as required, to make real choices, take action, and produce the results we desire.
  6. people respond to maps of reality (partially deleted, distorted, defined versions of reality), not to reality itself – you and I can be witnesses to the same event, but give two very different responses because we have two very different versions of what is actually happening.
  7. to change the response, change the map – in view of numbers 5 and 6, we can add more data, options, and choices; we can expand or enrich our internal libraries to make more or better comparisons, try out different meanings, and adopt other perceptual positions.
  8. choice is better than no choice – it is wise to keep this in mind, as we go about our business in a world that grows increasingly complex: one option is a problem; two options is a dilemma (“you’re either for or against”; “it’s either this or that”); three options offer a choice.

As we travel the River of Life, and get stuck, or get pulled strongly to the left or right, it’s nice to know that we can draw on these attitudes to make adjustments along the way, to get us back on track, and resume our desired courses – or just know enough to stay where we are.

If you’ve ever wondered why people in power are less tolerant than ever of complaining, now you know. If you’re a follower, however, you can now turn the tables in your favor, given the information provided in this post. You can now start pressing leaders to upgrade their maps. I relay this, not as a leader, not as a follower, but as an advisor to leaders and followers, with a positive intention to find harmony with unity.

Alright, it’s time, yet again, to switch gears.

Number 8, the number of infinity, is a great springboard from which to jump into the River of Life, given that it serves so well as a culmination of the previous seven guidelines. Let us now revisit the meat of this presupposition: again, if one option is a problem (there is no real choice), and if two options is a dilemma (again, no real choice here), then three options is a choice (that is, a real choice can now be entertained).

Good leaders want options to lead effectively and good followers need options to follow efficiently, but beneath all of this constant wanting and chronic needing (to keep this game called Life going) lies (like a sleeping serpent coiled) this most fundamental of cosmic dilemmas:

service to self (sts): separate and control
what can I do you for? puts the other into service to the self

or

service to other (sto): integrate and release
what can I do for you? puts the self into service to the other

In the course of my study of NLP, I’ve come to this rather startling realization: “sts or sto” is not a real choice; it’s a dilemma. It’s either this or that (or else). To be honest, this doesn’t land well for me. Better yet, this lands for me in a way that challenges me to rise in response.

Now, in the spirit of NLP, let us alter the languaging here: okay, so it’s not a choice, but is it really a dilemma? Or is it just two ways of playing with the energy of service, in or out? If so, would this reframe not afford us this additional third option: sts, sto, or neither this nor that?

Now we have a choice.

Also, it’s best that we place “sts or sto” in contrast to one another, while always keeping the third option in mind. We do this so that we can more effectively bring any darkness to light. To wit:

service to self (sts): separate and control
what can I do you for? puts the other into service to the self

oppression and depression (who) / deprivation and temptation (what)
seduction and manipulation (how) / obligation and exploitation (why)

or

service to other (sto): integrate and release
what can I do for you? puts the self into service to the other

confirmation and validation (who) / exploration and illumination (what)
clarification and elaboration (how) / realization and actualization (why)

Note well the contrasts: “oppress and depress” can be met with “confirm and validate”; “deprive and tempt” can be met with “explore and illuminate”; “seduce and manipulate” can be met with “clarify and elaborate”; “obligate and exploit” can be met with “realize and actualize”

Acting on these contrasts help you to make informed choices to be ‘sto’

Let’s have a little fun here. On your left shoulder, a little white angel whispers to you, reminds you, in going about the busyness of your day, at just the right moment: “what can I do for you?” On your right shoulder, a little red demon rejoins and prompts thus: “what can I do you for?”

Remember, you, being in the middle, can take the third option (“neither”) at any time.

It is good to know that the angel is energized and delighted by acts of service performed in favor of the other, but it is also good to know that the demon is energized and delighted by acts of service performed in favor of the self, and not just any acts, mind you, but acts that oppress and depress, to more easily deprive and tempt, to more easily seduce and manipulate, to more easily obligate and exploit.

If this sounds awful to you, just recall these guidelines from above:

1. behind every behavior is a positive intention – this is a variant of “demons are just trying to do the best they can”; if they behave in ways that offend or disturb, it’s because they’re responding to a threat, attempting to deal with a difficult situation the best way they know how.

2. there is no failure, only feedback – failure implies judgment and finality getting hooked into personal worth: “if I don’t do this, or if I do this, that’s gonna mean something is wrong with me, something is bad about me.” Replace this with a curiosity that observes and discerns.

3. demons work perfectly to produce the results they’re getting – regardless of how offended or disturbed they appear, they aren’t broken, they don’t need to be fixed, and there’s nothing wrong with them; their maps of reality serve their needs; if desired, they can adjust the maps.

The demon is threatened by a world where it can no longer separate from you and exercise control. If we fall prey to a demon’s machinations, there is no failure, only feedback; there’s nothing wrong with us for having done so – just be an observing, discerning witness – and regardless how offensive or disturbed the demon, the demon is merely trying to follow its map of reality the best way it knows how to meet its needs. In dealing with demons, both visible and invisible, recall guideline 4:

4. the meaning of my communication is the response I get – the meaning of your communication is the response you get; the meaning of my communication is how it lands on the other; if it doesn’t land, it’s up to me to adjust it, to expand it or enrich it, as required or desired.

I’ll give you a hint: demons detest unconditional loving and trusting. If you feel yourself in any way to be oppressed and depressed, deprived or tempted, seduced or manipulated, obligated or exploited, by any demon on this side (or any other), just recall this powerful little hint.

Demons detest your unconditional loving and trusting.

Yes, it is true, loving and trusting without condition does take practice (and sometimes perseverance), but the little white angels on our left shoulders would have us recall these guidelines:

5. we have all the resources we need – we have all the internal resources we need to do nothing, while leaving nothing undone, as well as the resources we need to generate more options, as required, to make real choices, take action, and produce the results we desire.

6. people respond to maps of reality (partially deleted, distorted, defined versions of reality), not to reality itself – you and I can be witnesses to the same event, but give two very different responses because we have two very different versions of what is actually happening.

7. to change the response, change the map – in view of numbers 5 and 6, we can add more data, options, and choices; we can expand or enrich our internal libraries to make more or better comparisons, try out different meanings, and adopt other perceptual positions.

Each of these guidelines supports loving and trusting without condition. From the book, A Course in Miracles: “all attack is a call for help.” On this assumption, respond thus: “how can I help you?” and find it within yourself to ask, inwardly or outwardly, with loving, trusting intent.

In light of these three guidelines, and in light of what I said about the demons, we can make informed, inspired choices to be of service to the other (or not). Again, for ease of reference …

service to other (sto): “integrate and release”
what can I do for you? puts the self into service to the other

confirmation and validation (who) / exploration and illumination (what)
clarification and elaboration (how) / realization and actualization (why)

Guideline 4 is central to responding to the other with intent to serve the other:

4. the meaning of my communication is the response I get – the meaning of your communication is the response you get; the meaning of my communication is how it lands on the other; if it doesn’t land, it’s up to me to adjust it, to expand it or enrich it, as required or desired.

In asking, inwardly or outwardly, “what can I do for you?” or “how can I help you?” or “how can I best serve you now?”, you put yourself in service to the other. In recalling guideline number 4, you position yourself most advantageously to follow this fourfold protocol:

  • confirmation and validation (who) – “what can I do for you?” – confirm and validate
  • exploration and illumination (what) – “what can I do for you?” – explore and illuminate
  • clarification and elaboration (how) – “what can I do for you?” – clarify and elaborate
  • realization and actualization (why) – “what can I do for you?” – realize and actualize

This protocol deserves a post of its own (at the very least), so let me be brief …

In terms of service, your prime directive (for you, yourself) is to “integrate and release” the call to service for the sake of another. What this means is that, first, you must distinguish between a bid to service and a call to service. A bid to service is an offer that someone throws your way in an attempt to use you for their own benefit. For example, someone, after oppressing and depressing you, is in a better position to make you feel deprived, to have you give into the temptation of serving the bid. Though sometimes difficult to do, you can still decline or ignore the bid to service, even if you feel oppressed, depressed, or deprived. A call to service, on the other hand, is a request from someone in genuine need of help (also, a situation can be dire enough for you to make a choice to act on behalf of those in this situation, regardless of whether or not they can make a request). Second, in responding to a call to service, it helps to know about who and what you’re dealing with, to explore and illuminate the origin and nature of the call. In responding well to the call, it serves the caller and the called to clarify and elaborate on how best to respond to the call, to better help the caller meet the need. For example, if someone approaches me for a handout, it helps me to follow this protocol. When I have the time and inclination to meet the call with this protocol (remember, I can always say “no thank you” to a call to service), I can integrate and release it so that I can move on with my life without any lingering sense of doubt or regret about not having done enough to meet the call.

In a nutshell, here’s the protocol for being ‘sto’: you get an apparent call to service and you distinguish as follows: is this a bid to service or a call to service? If you are sure that this is a genuine call to service, you confirm (at least to yourself) that you’re open to taking the call and you openly acknowledge the validity of the call itself; you explore and illuminate, as required, the origin and nature of the call; and if necessary, you clarify and elaborate on how best to meet the call. Finally, you relay to the caller why you’re responding to the call and/or why you’re responding to the call in the way that you are, before attempting to meet the call in a way that satisfies both the caller and the called.

Having shared the contents of this nutshell, I do not recommend following the protocol contained therein like you would a checklist. In my experience, assessing, addressing, and meeting a call to service is, more often than not, a matter of heart and soul, and the process feels more intuitive and instinctive than logical and sequential in the ways in which it plays out from start to finish. My purpose for sharing this process in a linear fashion was to get a better handle on what might be involved in meeting a call to service.

Being of service to the other is more than just being amiable or “nice”, more than “just be nice”, although “just be nice” could be a “nice” way to sum up those instances when you can sidestep a bid to service to effectively meet a call to service. Truth be told, being of service to the other, at least 51% of the time, in keeping with the Law of One, is in all likelihood a remarkable achievement that is worthy of ascension.

We’ve been told that if souls can “integrate and release” calls to service, diligently and effectively, at least 51% of their time, they are qualified for a positive harvest, to ascend to the next level (4th density positive), where they get to enjoy the frequency of love and compassion with other like-hearted souls. Howard Storm, in his captivating video, The Future of the World, describes such a 4D world:

There is something very curious about this account. Most notably, technology is missing from the picture. Could this mean that all technology and evidence of technology will be erased by means of some destructive, albeit controllable nanotechnology? Could this missing technology also mean that said technology will be taken offworld to other planets in third density where it can henceforth be developed and utilized? Or could this missing technology be a startling reflection of a fourth density earth being no longer able to support third density manufacture? Also, the timing seems a little scary: late 22nd century, say, around the year 2185 – roughly 160 years from now. If this tech-free scenario comes about at this future time, what does this say about our tech aspirations today? Or even our individual and collective aspirations in general? More to the point, where would you rather be in your next incarnation: an idyllic paradise on 4D earth free of technology? Or a tech paradise on some other 3D planet?

In the meantime, with the illumination of the Era of Golden Consciousness fast approaching, how best might we wanderers live and love our lives now in the transition from 3D mixed to 4D positive?

Early in this post, I ask, “wherein lies your path to mastery of ultimate fulfillment, loving and trusting yourself and others, unconditionally and universally, without condition and without expectation?”

I intend to reflect on and respond to these questions in my next post.

This post has been filed under Application in the Ultimate Outline.

Note: my evolving outline on approaching a realization of the ultimate in personal fulfillment can be found [here], accessible from the nav menu under the page “Be Here Now”.

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective

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