Ultimate Outline 02

by Christopher Lovejoy on March 13, 2016

I can accept that I will never have it all,
but I can have all that is relevant to me!

Indeed, in word and deed, why would I not wish to encounter, experience, and enjoy all that is relevant to who and what I am? I deserve to be and do and have all that is relevant to me. If I need it not, if it has no relevance to who and what I am, then why must I think and feel I need to pursue it and therefore deserve it? Likewise, someone somewhere might, on occasion, offer something of value to me, something I missed or misconstrued – an opinion, a piece of advice, a correction, a consolation – but is it not always up to me to summon the peace or the courage to accept it or decline it in the name of not living a lie so that I might live and speak my truth in each and every moment that is relevant to me?

Easier said than done, I know.

Truth be told, being impeccable with your word (your word is your wand, after all), while not making any (thoughtless, groundless) assumptions, while not taking anything personally (even when you feel undermined or threatened), while always doing the very best you can with what you have, is no small feat in a world that sometimes conspires against your quest to honor these four agreements.

I invite you to read this memo in first person, in light of the questions and suggestions posed above …


To: me
From: me
Date: now
Re: having all that is relevant to me


Who: me
What: having all that is relevant to me
Where: here
When: now
Why: because I deserve it
How: how indeed . . .

How indeed, in thought, feeling, word, and deed aligned, authentically and autonomously?

In my recent post, I touched on the roots of ultimate fulfillment with presence, peace, promise, and power. In this post, I touch on the essence of this fulfillment with purpose and passion.

There are many people on your planet
who are not dead, but they are wandering ghosts;
flesh yourself out – be fulfilled . . .

~ Bashar

Be fulfilled.

Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Simple and to the point, to be sure, but easy?

Let us explore . . .

tree trunk with eyeFirst, I encourage you to read or review Be Here Now (this link opens a new window; for ease of future reference, this link is located on the horizontal navigation menu near the top of my website), starting from the section entitled The Centrality of Purpose, to give you a tree-trunk-like sense of what it means to embody the essence of ultimate fulfillment in your daily life. In reading this material, I suggest this: get a solid sense of what resonates with you, of what is relevant to you, and then come back and begin reading from here to the end of this post . . .



This morning, I came across the rather exotic notion of ikigai.

Pronounced “icky guy”, it’s the Japanese equivalent of the French raison d’etre, “your reason for being”. It’s your prime reason for getting up in the morning, your discovery of which brings deep and lasting satisfaction and meaning to your life. Aside: I realize that a Japanese girl’s “icky guy” carries some suggestive undertones; for the radfem, it’s sexist to suggest that a girl’s reason for being is her icky guy; for an ifem, it’s within the realm of choice for such a girl to make her icky guy her reason to get up in the morning; and for the tradfem, it’s just plain silly; for the tradgirl, however, it’s just good wholesome fun to make her guy her ikigai.

But, of course, ikigai implies so much more than this, as the following synopsis indicates . . .

Ikigai is a richly endowed concept, indicating the prime source of value in your life, the one thing that makes your life feel worthwhile, the one thing that makes your life worth living, the central integrating theme of your life around which all else in your life can find its orbit. More than this, and this is what I truly love about ikigai, this exotic notion points to the moral and spiritual posture that you take in your life that makes your life feel worthwhile, that makes your life worth living, even when the current circumstances in your life appear dark and forbidding, independent of your social and economic status and your view of the current state of this world. Now here’s the icing on the proverbial cake with respect to ikigai: the conduct and behavior that put you in the zone of your ikigai can never be forced – they can only ever feel natural and spontaneous. Whenever your conduct and behavior feel forced, you’ve stepped outside the zone of your ikigai and you’ve betrayed the heart of your ikigai.

Does not the uncertainty of our time
teach us the most important lesson of all —
that the ultimate criteria are the honesty, integrity,
courage, and love of a given moment of relatedness?
If we do not have that, we are not building
for the future anyway; if we do have it,
we can trust the future to itself.

~ Rollo May

There are light (uplifting) consequences to following your ikigai and there are dark (degrading) consequences to betraying your ikigai. Needless to say, but I’ll say it anyways, it’s ridiculously important that you know and feel and live your ikigai, the quintessence of your ultimate fulfillment.


If ultimate fulfillment is the fulfillment of these four dimensions of life, and you feel an inner pull towards approaching a realization of ultimate fulfillment, then your ikigai might better be viewed as a colorful stick on a continuum of four dimensions. So, for example, my impersonal ikigai might be expressed thus: “In tandem with the chant of Hu (hugh), I allow myself to be shown purposefully hidden truth on a grand cosmic multi-dimensional scale and the much greater knowing of the expansive love within it (in keeping with the Seres Agenda).” My personal ikigai might be expressed this way: “I allow myself to open my mind and heart to the experience of realizing the full extent of what is relevant to me personally (beauty, harmony, serenity, intimacy, ecstasy; see my post, The Art of Surrender).” My interpersonal ikigai might be expressed as follows: “I allow myself – in body, mind, heart, soul, and spirit – to realize, for my own good and for the good of all, the most beneficial way for me to press my personal ikigai into service in relation to others.” My transpersonal ikigai might be expressed as “I allow myself to apply my impersonal ikigai to the transpersonal (selfless) dimension of Service to Others (STO) in ways that harmonize with my personal and interpersonal encounters and endeavors, in ways that harmonize with a dedicated Service to Self (STS).” A unified ikigai on these four dimensions is my true ikigai.

If ultimate fulfillment is of no interest to you at the present time, or if it presently feels too overwhelming, you could still devote yourself to the realization of just one ikigai on this continuum, with the option of expanding the extent of your ikigai as you progress in life to a fuller realization of who and what you are.

Admittedly, these ikigai statements are very general, crafted to serve as catalysts for your very own personal exploration and expression, and so I would encourage you to be more specific with what it is that really turns you on and keeps you going through good times and bad.

In my next post, I complete the analogy of the tree at its peak with a look at its leaves, with a look at the ideal of ultimate fulfillment as it blooms forth from the roots and trunk of ultimate fulfillment.

Note: my evolving outline on approaching a realization of the ultimate in personal fulfillment can be found here, accessible from the nav menu under the page “Be Here Now”.

Next: Ultimate Outline 03

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective

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