Ultimate Fulfillment 53

by Christopher Lovejoy on April 12, 2015

I am deeply grateful for the fact that I have an ego at the core of a True Self, and I trust that you are too, as a soulfully awakened and spiritually enlightened being with immense potential.

To help you appreciate the next instalment to my resource on coming to terms with fate, I’d like to place the ego in a deeper, broader, higher context than what you may have seen before.

To get the full flavor of how and why the ego was maligned (and used as a scapegoat) in times past, it might be helpful to see just where the ego is capable of going on the cosmic field of play.

field-of-play-2-plus-canvasThis representation of the cosmic field of play is but one of many that I have been exploring over the past few months or so. Here, the gray scale refers to a continuum of pretense, from dark (exploiting, bullying, manipulating) to gray (seducing, deceiving, obligating) to light (acting, feigning, pretending). The other scale is a combination of two continua that move away from the center vertical line (that bisects the field) towards the left and right of the field. At the extreme left is complete egoic abandonment; at the extreme right is complete egoic entitlement. With respect to abandonment and entitlement, there are many things that we can do with values, desires, and goals: we can hold them in mind, we can let them go for a time, we can hem and haw about whether to take them on, we can dedicate ourselves wholeheartedly to meeting them just as easily as we can persuade ourselves that they are no longer meaningful. When we surrender a value, desire, or goal to fate, we completely abandon this value, desire, or goal; likewise, when we embrace a value, desire, or goal as integral to our destiny, we fully entitle ourselves to this value, desire, or goal. Having said this, there are several words we need to clarify: the key word here is “ourselves”, our selves, or if you prefer, our Selves. The other two: abandonment and entitlement. To get a handle on these latter two words, we need to be flexible with how we apply them in our daily discourse: just as we can feel negatively abandoned (in the lower left half of the field), so too can we positively abandon aspects of ourselves, like attachments that no longer serve us (in the upper left half of the field). Just as we can feel darkly entitled to exploiting or manipulating someone for our own gain (lower right half), so too can we feel positively entitled to living a life of happiness (upper right half). In this instructive light, the conduct of an ego can be dark, dark, dark; gray, gray, gray; or light, light, light. I cannot apologize for these emphases; they are quite necessary, given our collective ignorance about the ego. I now invite you to take a moment to contemplate the ways in which I’ve characterized these four quadrants to see if they don’t resonate with your understanding.

matrix-of-selvesNow that I’ve illustrated a way to see the ego in a much broader light than what you might be used to seeing, let us briefly examine a ubiquitous word that we know simply as … myself: my … self? or my … Self? This is a bit confusing, so let us take “myself” as synonymous with “my ego” and let us take “my Self” as synonymous with “a Self that contains an ego” (a True Self). Furthermore, let us suppose a Self without an ego (to satisfy those who cannot bear to accept the ego as a legitimate force in daily life) and let us further suppose a condition of No Self (to satisfy those who cannot, unfortunately, get it out of their heads that any idea of Self is strictly equivalent to the ego). Let us now compare this matrix with the one I presented above on the cosmic field of play. Take note of the correspondence. For ease of reference, I will now refer to “Self with ego” as a True Self (also known in the spiritual literature as the Authentic Self, in contrast to the self, or ego, that is blithely conditioned by all manner of conditioners such as events from past lives, the slings and arrows of upbringing, attempts at indoctrination, etc., to become fake and false – pretentious, in other words).

cosmic-narrative-tensionI’m assuming, perhaps naively, that most if not all of my readers situate themselves somewhere in the upper half of the cosmic field of play. On this assumption, let us make an informed distinction between No Self and True Self (note: I explored this distinction in this post). Since I have a favorable notion of No Self, we can treat these two modes of being (for lack of a better phrase) as equally valid. Where No Self is situated in a quadrant devoted to (i.e, positively abandoned to) awareness and acceptance, to being wholly aware and accepting of reality through a type of energy I call the energy of allowance, True Self, on the other hand, is situated in a quadrant devoted to (i.e., positively entitled to) optimism and enthusiasm through a type of energy I call the energy of insistence. In this depiction of the relationship between No Self and True Self, I wish to emphasize the arrows on either side of the solar metaphor, representing a Self situated, from one moment to the next, in a dynamic relationship of structural tension between abandonment and entitlement, such that when the ego consciously surrenders itself to the energy of allowance for the sake of awareness and acceptance, No Self obtains, and when the ego entitles itself with the energy of insistence, with optimism and enthusiasm, True Self obtains.

A crucial point needs to be made here: No Self and True Self are complementary in the sense that you cannot fully appreciate one without the other. You can, however, obtain an experience of either one with energetic mastery, with skilled access to the master switch at the core of Self, inside the ego.

Compare, if you will, the following representations of No Self and True Self.


Where the flower of No Self is plain and hollow, showing as green to represent the peace of love (in its ideal state), the flower of True Self is fancy and colorful, showing as multi-colored to represent the joy of bliss (in its ideal state). Again, neither one is better than the other, as they are both complementary, and in spite of what you may have heard, egoic identification can be positive, provided that you understand and appreciate the role of the ego in its most awakened and enlightened context possible.


Another way in which No Self and True Self are complementary is that they can be combined through experience and with practice, at least for a time (I discuss this type of realization in my resource for coming to terms with fate at the point where I introduce the qubit switch). The idea is this: when a True Self is active (with a pure ego at its core that has access to the qubit function), True Self awakens to No Self, transcending and including No Self, such that True Self and No Self realize their full potential with each other, in a kind of symbiotic relationship that is all too rare in this world.

I trust that this all-too-brief overview will give you at least a bit of food for thought, to aid and support your interpretation of what is to come in my resource for coming to terms with Lady Fate.

Note: my evolving outline on the ultimate in personal fulfillment can now be found here, accessible from the nav menu under “Be Here Now”. I’ll be sure to inform readers of any updates.

Next: Ultimate Fulfillment 54

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective

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