Ultimate Fulfillment 50

by Christopher Lovejoy on March 22, 2015

We all have obligations, real or perceived, to act or behave in certain ways, for certain people, at certain times, in certain places, for certain reasons, but did we choose these obligations or did they choose us?

Many kinds of obligations are possible, even desirable – moral, legal, social, political, traditional – but if we’re not careful, more and more of them can be assumed to a point where we feel stifled by them.

“Do this, but don’t do that”; “do it this way, but not that way, unless (or until) you can do this (or not do this)”; “do more of this, but do less of this”, or “just keep doing what you’re doing”: the combinations and permutations of obligation are potentially endless, with a rather grave potential to weave sticky webs of fate that make being alive and being alive next to impossible.

Obligations can obviously weigh heavy on the heart and soul, on the mind and spirit, sucking the life out of the soul and draining the life out of the spirit, and some of them can even be fulfilled without a second thought, but could this longstanding notion of obligation actually be outdated?

We are organic beings after all, constantly learning, adapting, growing, and evolving over time into deeper, broader, higher, fuller versions of ourselves. In those moments of quiet contemplation, we might do well to ask ourselves: need I obligate myself to anyone or anything for any reason whatsoever?

What if we were to resolve all outstanding issues of abandonment from childhood to a point where we could actually respect ourselves enough to be wholly accountable and responsible for ourselves with grace and ease? Would this resolution not give us the impetus to (eventually) drop any and all obligations?

Rather than feel obligated to carry through with ostensibly necessary conduct or commitment, could we not instead feel energized by responding appropriately to the requirements of each moment?

Or is it the case that obligation is necessary, and will always and forever be necessary, by virtue of being spiritual in human form, a form that continues to challenge us to reconcile the ego and the heart, the mind and the body, the soul and the spirit, the Witness and the Will?

These are some of the questions that are coming up for me as I continue to update my resource on coming to terms with fate. Your cue to find: “I first presented the following graphic in my blog post …”

Note: my evolving outline on the ultimate in personal fulfillment can now be found here, accessible from the nav menu under “Be Here Now”. I’ll be sure to inform readers of any updates.

Next: Ultimate Fulfillment 51

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective

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