Ultimate Fulfillment 30

by Christopher Lovejoy on November 2, 2014

I very much like the following statement, but I nevertheless feel called to bring it into the cosmic depths, as I think it too important a statement to positively abandon without comment or question:

When you say or do anything
to please, get, keep, influence,
or control anyone or anything,
fear is the cause and pain is the result

~ Byron Katie

As of this writing, I have never felt drawn to explore The Work in depth and I’ve only ever seen the author of The Work perform on stage once, during a live Webcast, and my impressions of her performance are mixed. She came across as smart, yet caring, and very much in control. Like most driven women with something to prove, she had an edginess to her style of conduct, one that reflected a strong sense of entitlement. I am willing to entertain the notion that, with her experience, she could very well be uniquely qualified to speak on the matter of pleasing, getting, keeping, influencing, and controlling.

I would suppose from the outset that this carefully crafted statement is offered as guidance, to guide those who would make the time and summon the energy to read it and appreciate it, but why?

In presuming to guide others, do we not say or do things to exert a positive influence on those we guide, and if so, could fear not be the cause and pain the result? Perhaps, in presuming to guide others, we fear that we will lose a sense of our own relevance and significance, and if our guidance should happen to fall on deaf ears, perhaps we feel a mild sense of disappointment, or worse, a growing sense of futility.

Is this statement formulated to please us? No, I don’t think so. This provocative statement is the result of someone who cares deeply enough to speak truth to power. Is it designed to get something from us? I would have to say yes: a response. Is it not crafted (and it is crafted) to keep something for the one who made the statement? Perhaps a positive influence on others? Is it presented to exert control? You tell me.

Perhaps the author of this statement already recognizes this: any saying and doing that flows energetically with loving, trusting, forgiving intent from pure being without fear is a worthy ideal, but an ideal that can never be realized fully while incarnated as human. In my estimation, this lightly pretentious statement is packed with meaning and purpose, and deserves a full hearing, but it nevertheless presumes.

In a world full of pretense, presuming is par for the course, and in my view, not to be judged harshly or criticized unfairly. There’s a reason why many people fall prey to calcified worldviews by the time they turn thirty. Unless they’ve committed themselves to speaking their truth, to seeing truth realized, to having justice seen and done, there really isn’t much incentive to keep their worldviews fresh.

Richard Dolan, in his preface to High Strangeness, speaks eloquently to this state of affairs:

It’s sad but true that most people don’t like inconvenient realities to upset their pleasant illusions and prejudices. I see this all the time in my own daily interactions with people. Once someone reaches a point in his or her life when they feel they “understand” the world well enough – often around the age of thirty – they spend the rest of their life filling in the blanks of what they think they already know. It’s a tendency that usually becomes more extreme over time. Ideas and worldviews seem to harden in tandem with the arteries.

Talk about giving us the black needle treatment, but I think it’s richly deserved commentary. Many of us deserve to hear this, even if few would ever take it to heart and become fresh and alive again.

I read and listen to many commentators who decry a certain shadowy and secretive global elite in charge of running the Western world, with conspiratorial designs on running the entire world in accordance with the Georgia Guidestones, but maybe their attempted exposures are misplaced. Maybe it’s We the People who need to be appraised and exposed, albeit gently and humorously, given the oppressive nature of what they’re having to endure. I invite you to think about this for a moment.

Personally, I’d like to see a world, and live in a world, where everyone is free and feels free to exert as much or as little control as they please on their own terms, fearlessly, with loving, trusting, forgiving intent, and to think or feel, be or have, say or do, whatever they please from a highly inspired place or space, without any fear of pain as a consequence. In approaching my version of the cosmic field of play, I freely admit that this is my own personal bias.

But alas, too many of us are caught in one web of fate or another, myself included.

webs-of-fateIt’s not a pleasant feeling to realize that you’re caught in a web of your own making. Consider this extreme: if you feel obligated to everyone about everything, eventually you’ll succumb to compulsion as a way of life. I’ve known and seen people whose characteristic way of acting is compulsive to the core, or at least it very much seems that way. Perhaps you have, too. Their webs of obligation are quite sticky and they’re lucky indeed if they should ever get a reprieve from their compulsive behavior and conduct. This depiction of the webs of fate presented here for your consideration will be revisited in future posts. For now, just know that this graphic can be superimposed on the cosmic field of play (see below). So, for example, if creating a web of exploitation is darkly pretentious, and if creating a web of obligation is grayly pretentious, then creating a web of realization is lightly pretentious. As I’ve mentioned previously, there’s no escaping this field, not even past so-called death (unless, perhaps, you realize the ultimate in personal fulfillment). An interesting feature of this graphic is the representation of compression from above and below. Where the demonic is forever pressing on us from below to have us exploit and manipulate people and events in our favor, the archonic is forever pressing down on us from above to become distracted in our explorations and stagnant in our realizations. I’ll say more about this when I feel the time is right. For now, I view this compression factor as being extremely valuable for our learning and growth as a species, so valuable in fact that I presently assume that it’s absolutely divine by design.

For one thing, fate (acknowledged and recognized as feeling fated) gives us something to work with in service to shaping a sense of our own personal destiny. For another, fate is deeply personal, with the supreme advantage that no one in this world can presume to tell you how to live your life, but with the realization that this is something you ultimately need to face on your own, even with the help of others.

In other words, if you feel fated (repressed, suppressed, or oppressed) – in any way, shape, or form – I think I can help you, but (as I’m sure you already know) I can’t do the work for you.

As suggested above, there are five webs of influence on the cosmic field of play, but before I present this in graphic form, let’s break it down a little more slowly, starting with these two zones of play:

field-of-play-love-and-fearIn this depiction of the two main zones of influence on the field of pretense, both love and fear have power. Love and fear are very different motives, obviously, but love and fear both have the power to influence consciousness, namely, to have consciousness yield or submit to the light or the dark, respectively. The use of the term predominates is precise, not only because it implies the power to influence but because love and fear are complementary in the sense that the first harmonizes with the light and the second organizes with the dark. The more love you have in your life, the lighter your inclinations towards pretense; the more fear you have in your life, the darker your inclinations towards pretense. Also, at the border between love and fear lies a gray zone of ambiguity and ambivalence, where fighting tends to get conflated with loving. I invite you to google “quotes on love and fear” and read some of the many insights on love in relation to fear, especially the ones by John Lennon and James Arthur Baldwin.

field-of-play-three-zonesWith enough consciousness, the two main zones of influence can be resolved into three zones, into what I call the light zone, the gray zone, and the dark zone. Where I associate the predominance of love as a motivating power with the light zone and the predominance of fear as a motive power with the dark zone, a confused or conflated blend of love and fear can easily be associated with the gray zone. With enough consciousness, however, every encounter, every experience, every event in the course of living a life can be an opportunity to choose either love or fear as the most influential motive power. Merely having the awareness that you can choose either to embrace the power of love in service to the light or to be driven by the power of fear in service to the dark can often be enough to begin moving in one direction or the other.

field-of-play-five-zonesWe can rely on the preceding two graphics to arrive at a deeper understanding of the webs of fate, where the field of pretense is resolved even further into five zones of play. These five webs of fate that I identified are a kind of working hypothesis, one that I conceived intuitively for the sake of enhancing my understanding and appreciation of the role that pretense plays in daily life. Each of these webs of fate have their own risk factors, as shown on the right side of the graphic (see above). Where the web of realization is in the light zone, the web of exploration straddles the light zone and the gray zone, and where the web of obligation is in the gray zone, the web of manipulation straddles the gray zone and the dark zone. Someone caught in a web of exploitation is in the dark zone, motivated mostly by fear and at risk of dissolution either on the side of abandonment (“I no longer care about my life”) or on the side of entitlement (“I no longer care about anyone in my life”), both of which are potentially fatal to the one caught in this dark web. Another interesting feature of this depiction of the webs of fate is that a potential exists to either ascend towards a web of realization (and beyond) or descend into a web of exploitation, which is not to say that I view these webs as mutually exclusive. That is, someone caught in a web of exploration, where distraction has become prevalent, is still capable of falling prey to occasional acts of obligation, of committing isolated acts of manipulation, or of performing aberrational acts of exploitation. With enough awareness of these webs, those caught in webs of exploration plagued by distraction could make it part of their destiny to weave webs of realization by deepening their sense of what is really and truly loved and desired for themselves.

With further analysis of the cosmic field of play, I expect these webs of fate to resolve more deeply and finely, serving as bridges between spiritual integration and practical application in daily life.

Through these analyses, I also hope to explore, examine, and share my own web of fate in service to shaping my personal destiny towards the realization of the ultimate in personal fulfillment.

Note: my evolving outline on the ultimate in personal fulfillment can now be found here, accessible from the nav menu under “Be Here Now”. I’ll be sure to inform readers of any updates.

Next: Ultimate Fulfillment 31

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective

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