Ultimate Fulfillment 20

by Christopher Lovejoy on August 24, 2014

This past week has found me contemplating and cultivating a graphic representation of a cosmic field of play for the ego in relation to a True Self (a Self as Art) for a spiritual being in human form.

What began as word play morphed into graphic form.

……………………………………………..light pretense……………………………………………..

egocentric abandonment              gray pretense                  egocentric entitlement

……………………………………………..dark pretense……………………………………………..

field-of-playMy thinking on this has advanced considerably beyond what I’ve presented here, but due to time constraints, I’ve been unable to develop it in enough textual and graphical detail to share how my thinking has progressed so far, and because this contextual field is so complex, I’ve opted to wait until I’ve had a chance to complete my thinking on it – or at least complete a serviceable draft of my thinking on it. I can, however, share a few hints and highlights on how this heuristic could develop.

With respect to pretense, and with due respect given to pretense, I’ve already shared a bit on my understanding of it in this post, which I published on my blog just over ten weeks ago.

Since then, I’ve come to appreciate that the value of pretense in daily life is as variable as it is situational, depending not so much on how light or dark or gray it is as the intent that lies behind it.

When we dress up and put on a literal mask (or even a figurative one) and pretend to be someone we’re not, we’re exploring possibilities for expansion and expression, and when we tell a white lie (or even a gray one) to assure or reassure someone who is feeling vulnerable, we’re acting from a place of compassion, and when we deceive someone, who harbors a dark intent, to protect someone else, we’re conducting ourselves in the service of light and love.

The placement of the symbolic eye at the centre of a True Self, which I developed in this post a few weeks ago, into this field of play, with respect to presence and pretense, is quite complex, and involves understanding egocentricity from at least two perspectives.

Culturally speaking, egocentric entitlement is obvious, but in my understanding, I interpret it in two ways, depending on the emphasis given: where egocentric entitlement refers to a sense of entitlement that is immaturely egocentric in nature (picture someone boasting about besting someone in a competition), egocentric entitlement refers to a mature egocentricity that is deserving of entitlement (picture a person of influence who is admired and toasted for his or her many charitable acts).

The notion of egocentric abandonment, however, is not so obvious. Again, it can be interpreted in two ways: where egocentric abandonment refers to a sense of abandonment that is immaturely egocentric in nature (picture a drunken man passed out on a sidewalk near the edge of a road with a pile of chunky yellow vomit in front of his face), egocentric abandonment refers to a mature egocentricity that is indicative of abandonment (picture a group of Zen Buddhists sitting quietly in meditation with their minds empty of any thoughts of themselves).

In light of these clarifications, the heuristic presented above could evolve as follows:


With this understanding, the placement of the eye of a True Self begins to make sense. Recall that at the centre of this symbolic eye is a master switch, which the ego controls (or doesn’t control). As and when I assume control of the locus of my control, I place myself at the centre of this field of play, and depending on where I wish to go, either as an observer or as a participant (toward dark pretense? toward egocentric entitlement?), I could generate (consciously or not) one of many lines of travel from the centre to a corner or to an edge of the field and back again, or I could remain (consciously or not) in a fixed position, either as an observer or a participant (or both) at one corner of the field or somewhere along one edge of the field or even at the very centre of the field, or I could allow myself, my ego, to be highly variable in its positioning, observing here, participating there, all over the map, so to speak.

At present, I’m inclined to assume that as long as I remain alive, awake, aware, and alert on this planet, no exit from this field is possible, and even beyond the death of my biological body, no transcendence of this field is possible. The only exception I can see is through the ultimate realization in fulfillment.

In view of these complex considerations, personal fulfillment, which involves egoic fulfillment relative to the fulfillment of a True Self (of a Self as Art), with respect to its expansion, expression, and evolution, as well as its ultimate realization, can be viewed in a whole new light.

Incidentally, many of these ideas and perspectives are inspired by my reading of the Cosmic Life Review; as I continue to explore them, I expect their integration and application will inform my ongoing study of life between lives (and vice versa) in support of my cosmic context.

Next: Ultimate Fulfillment 21

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective




a message for our times: “be true, be wise, be free; love is the key”




(Setting the context)


The syntactical nature of reality, the real secret of magic,
is that the world is made of words, and if you know the words that the world is made of,
you can make of it whatever you wish ~ Terence McKenna

consider this truth: “there is no truth”: true or false? if true, then false; if false, then true

words are powerful, as and when they are spoken in the light of truth, love, and wisdom




(A cosmic perspective)

Previous study: the cosmic life review (learn more)

Current study: a cosmic perspective on birth, life, and death

View this page to explore the basic issues




The ethical imperative: guard guide your eyes, guard guide your thoughts, guard guide your steps

What the cosmic life review indicates we do in the earthly realm: (1) sanctify; (2) purify; (3) justify

Does “what does it take to be fulfilled?” = “what does it take to be sanctified, purified, justified?”?




Proposal: our prime directive as a species is finding the balance

  • finding the balance between soul (being) and spirit (becoming)
  • finding the balance between being perfectly full and becoming perfectly filled
  • finding the balance between living soulfully (truly, deeply) and living spiritually (wisely, freely)




(A context for living life to the fullest)

proposal to universalize human need:

need 1: “a safe place to eat and sleep”
need 2: “a way to satisfy all my needs”
need 3: “someone to love and cherish”
need 4: “a healthy, vital outlook on life”

a vital distinction to observe in daily life:
satisfaction of need v. fulfillment of desire

the body is but a vessel for soul,
serving to contain all that the soul needs;
the body is but a vehicle for spirit,
serving to convey all that the spirit desires;

how might body serve to contain and convey
both soul and spirit as vessel and vehicle?

soul spirit

unity harmony
peace bliss
love joy
being becoming
loving caring
intimacy ecstasy
quality vitality
encounter experience
sacred divine
promise possibility
realization evolution
truth wisdom
responsibility freedom
depth height
inward outward
descend ascend
contemplation evaluation
involvement engagement
satisfaction fulfillment
cultivation celebration
dwelling peacefully flowing blissfully
heart of soul soul of spirit
contains conveys
accepts expects
let it be make it so
receptive assertive
attuned to what is required aligned with what is desired
dignity integrity
awakening enlightenment
being alive being alive




(A practice for living life to the fullest)


exploring …

the ways and means by which I can be centred in love
the ways and means by which I can follow (or manifest!) a path with heart
the ways and means by which I can be love truly and wisely

if the first pointer serves to expose the truth of who and what I am,
and if the second serves to reveal the meaning, purpose, and direction of my life,
then the third serves to realize a dynamic balance between my soul and spirit


the three deep, dark fears of spiritual beings in human form

1) a fear of letting go during sexual orgasm (the sexual fear)
2) a fear of losing control, of losing one’s mind (the political fear)
3) a fear of dying in pain, in anguish, in misery (the religious fear)

dysfunctional, maladaptive, unsustainable ways to maintain personal control
(here presented as pairs: a passive matter of soul, an active matter of spirit)












when life gives you lemons, turn them into lemonade ~ a popular proverb

how people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours ~ wayne dyer




(a global perspective: why is humanity failing to fulfill its true potential?)

weaving a terrestrial narrative that aligns with a cosmic perspective, including historical, interdimensional, extraterrestrial, conspiratorial, and eschatological elements, is an exhaustive process

such a terrestrial narrative would have us explore and expose the causes and consequences of two widespread (and related) social phenomena: cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement

the story of Howard Storm: how a visit to The Other Side cured his soul and spirit of cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement, transmuting his contempt for humanity into compassion and compersion

If darkness is your problem, talking about darkness won’t help.
If darkness is your problem, nothing can be done about darkness directly.
You cannot throw it out, you cannot push it out, you cannot switch it off.
Darkness is an absence. Nothing can be done about it directly.
If you have to do anything, you have to do something with the light, not with darkness.

~ Osho (Fear: Understanding and Accepting the Insecurities of Life, p. 136)




1. “I just can’t stand it anymore … why go on?”

2. “Wrong body, wrong family, wrong planet … why?”

3. “Why am I making such a mess of my life?”

4. “What does it really take to be (become) fulfilled in this life?”

5. Soul: “a sound approach to being perfect: possible?”

6. Spirit: “a sane approach to becoming perfect: desirable?”

7. The ultimate in truth, love, and power: dare we ask?


Study Notes


  • incorporate the use of symbols with these elements: sphere (soul), spiral (spirit), pyramid
  • presence and pretense: best to view them as complementary, rather than as mutually exclusive?
  • follow these elements of perspective: form, structure, substance, orientation, appearance
  • the devil challenge (problem, difficulty, obstacle, inadequacy, struggle, conflict) is in the details
  • the privileged among us: a little too preoccupied with celebrity, technology, personality, positivity?
  • extroverts and introverts: “living on the surface” and “living from the depths with presence”
  • the cosmic life review: a representation of the ultimate in personal fulfillment for a life lived?


* TUiPF = The Ultimate in Personal Fulfillment

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