Ultimate Fulfillment 17

by Christopher Lovejoy on August 3, 2014

Less than four months after I began posting on this site, on October 7, 2010, I made a statement, and I’m still amazed by how well this statement resonates with the heart of my soul, by how well it dovetails with what I’m about to share in this post on creating an energetic structure for a True Self, for a Self as Art.

In my recent post, I present five facets of this structure, which I reproduce here for ease of reference:

  1. a soul
  2. a witness
  3. a will
  4. a spirit
  5. an ego

In my statement, I make reference to a continuity of personal fulfillment and what I call “indicators of this continuity”, which are four in number and which align with four of the facets listed above.

In my experience, for myself as well as for others I’ve met and known, a lasting fulfillment does not come easily or naturally. There are good reasons for this, which I will explore elsewhere.

For now, I offer these gauges of continuity to get a handle on what makes up a True Self, a Self as Art:

  1. buoyancy (of mood) from the heart of the soul
  2. serenity (of outlook) for the Witness to experience
  3. clarity (of focus) to exercise the Will to power
  4. vitality (of motive) in the spirit of discovery
  5. maturity (of conduct) with respect to the ego

These indicators of continuity align one for one with the proposed facets of Self listed above.

That is to say, there is nothing more important to the heart of your soul than a buoyant mood and (I’m going out on a limb here) nothing more important to a True Self, to a Self as Art, than buoyancy of mood. Without buoyancy of mood, you are, metaphorically speaking, and to use a rather dreadful expression, “dead in the water”. A living death is nothing anyone wishes to experience for long, if at all.

Additionally, there is nothing more important to the Witness than a serene outlook. With a serenity of outlook, the Witness is ideally placed to mindfully observe the world with enlightened detachment, and for the Will in relation to the Witness, in tandem with the Witness, what could be more important than a clear focus, more important than a clear focus on what truly matters to the heart of a soul?

Perhaps it goes without saying that a vital spirit requires a buoyant mood, a serene outlook, and a clear focus, but it also depends on a mature and decisive ego, even as such an ego depends on a vital spirit. At the core of a spiritual being in harmony with the heart of a soul having a human experience, a mature and decisive ego is an absolute must; paradoxically, such an ego must know when not to be decisive.

A mature and decisive ego, in my experience, must know when to be decisive about when not to be decisive, when to yield its power to the heart of soul and when to invest its power in the spirit in harmony with soul, when to be rigid and when to be fluid, when to be intransigent and when to be flexible, when to receive, reflect, and respond to influence and when to assert, project, and expand its influence.

A mature and decisive ego is not a distracted ego, a superficial ego, a dependent ego, an ignorant ego, an arrogant ego, an entitled ego, a judgmental ego, a cynical ego, a conceited ego.

The locus of control can be found in a mature and decisive ego; such an ego is decisive to the extent that it can expand its awareness of what is required even as it remains aware of what is desired.

Never forget: the deep, dark fear of losing control is the deep, dark fear of losing the strength, flexibility, and endurance that comes with finding and keeping and honing the locus of your control.

Let us now explore and discern an energetic structure that would contain and convey a Self as Art.

To do this, I’d like you to follow along with me in building (drawing, sketching, painting) an energetic structure that represents the Self as Art by making use of the facets that are mentioned above.

Let us start with making a circle at least two inches in diameter.

I invite you now, materially or digitally, to draw, sketch, or paint a circle, for a circle is symbolic of wholeness. The peace sign begins with a circle and the circle is an apt representation of soul.

The legacy of the vital counterculture of the 1960s is this: to be at peace is to be rooted in wholeness.

The soul contains a heart, for without a heart, there can be no soul. Instead of roots, I invite you to draw, sketch, or paint a heart inside the circle, such that it touches the circle at three points.

Align the centre of the heart (where the lines meet) with the centre of the circle; insert a tiny circle, which represents the pupil of an eye that you will now draw, sketch, or paint around the tiny circle.

Now this is where things get a little complicated: this symbolic eye at the core of your heart at the centre of your soul, with its pupil and its iris, is a complex representation of Witness, Will, and ego.

If the Witness is your capacity for mindful observation, for enlightened detachment, and if the Will is your ability to sustain a clear focus in the face of challenge, difficulty, opposition, or hardship, then the ego is the master in charge of the switch that decides when and where to put its attention: with the Witness or the Will, with the soul or the spirit, with an attitude of gratitude or an attitude with altitude?

Again, your ego (your most intimate sense of I) is the locus of your control, at the very core of the Self.

To represent this complex, let the pupil be the Witness and let the iris be the Will when your ego decides to surrender its influence to the heart of your soul, such that the pupil (the Witness) turns green and the iris (the Will) turns blue, and … let the pupil be the Will and let the iris be the Witness when your ego decides to exert its influence through your spirit in harmony with the heart of your soul, such that the pupil (the Will) turns blue and the iris (the Witness) turns green.

In light of this complexity, I encourage you to create two separate representations – one for the Witness and one for the Will.

I choose green for the Witness and blue for the Will because where green is a restful, relaxing, grounding color – the color of peace – suitable for a soul and for the heart of a soul, blue is the color of promise and possibility, for a spirit that ascends, even soars, where “the sky is the limit”. When the Witness is central to your experience, the pupil is green; when the Will is central to your experience, the pupil turns blue.

You now have two diagrams – one for the Witness with respect to the soul, where the pupil is green, and one for the Will with respect to the spirit in harmony with soul, where the pupil is blue.

The first diagram is complete; the second one requires two additional elements, one of which is optional.

Let the spiral represent the spirit which emanates from the pupil of the eye (as the Will) as and when it turns blue and pulses from and through the heart of the soul from a Witness perspective.

Think of it this way: the spiral circles the eye, inside the heart, moving up and through the heart and then the soul, reaching the apex of its influence, before receding back into the soul, the heart, and the eye as and when the pupil turns green, as and when the Witness comes forward, making it presence felt.

The optional element in this whole dynamic is the pyramid. This option can be depicted as a triangle placed around the circle of the soul, which serves as a structural support (or constraint) that can be employed when the ego falters, when the ego is inadequate, when the ego has not yet matured. This option serves two vital functions when the spirit has not yet found its harmony with the heart of its soul:

  1. the body of the pyramid contains and guides the spirit in relation to the soul; and
  2. the capstone constrains the wayward spirit by putting a cap on dubious aspirations

The pyramid is imposed on a Self only as long as necessary, either serving as support for someone new to the art of Self or, for example, as a temporary measure in the event of severe hardship.

Energetically speaking, here is how my (sketchy) interpretation of a Self as Art appears symbolically:

energetic matrixNote: the shaded part of this pyramid represents the option of No Self, whose dynamics I discuss in some detail in this post and then this post. Removing the pyramid does not remove the option of No Self, as the shading merely transfers and expands to the space around the circle into eternity and infinity.

This energetic structure is designed to enable souls with the wherewithal to be at choice about everything in their experience and to manifest anything at will to experience the ultimate in personal fulfillment.

In my next post, I will reference this design of Self as Art to cope with what I call “the energy of compromise”, with due respect given to the attachments (of soul) and the expectations (of spirit).

In posts to come, I will explore what it takes to cultivate and master the Art of Self, viz., the Art of Surrender with respect to attachments and the Art of Influence with respect to expectations.




a message for our times: “be true, be wise, be free; love is the key”




(Setting the context)


The syntactical nature of reality, the real secret of magic,
is that the world is made of words, and if you know the words that the world is made of,
you can make of it whatever you wish ~ Terence McKenna

consider this truth: “there is no truth”: true or false? if true, then false; if false, then true

words are powerful, as and when they are spoken in the light of truth, love, and wisdom




(A cosmic perspective)

Previous study: the cosmic life review (learn more)

Current study: a cosmic perspective on birth, life, and death

View this page to explore the basic issues




The ethical imperative: guard guide your eyes, guard guide your thoughts, guard guide your steps

What the cosmic life review indicates we do in the earthly realm: (1) sanctify; (2) purify; (3) justify

Does “what does it take to be fulfilled?” = “what does it take to be sanctified, purified, justified?”?




Proposal: our prime directive as a species is finding the balance

  • finding the balance between soul (being) and spirit (becoming)
  • finding the balance between being perfectly full and becoming perfectly filled
  • finding the balance between living soulfully (truly, deeply) and living spiritually (wisely, freely)




(A context for living life to the fullest)

proposal to universalize human need:

need 1: “a safe place to eat and sleep”
need 2: “a way to satisfy all my needs”
need 3: “someone to love and cherish”
need 4: “a healthy, vital outlook on life”

a vital distinction to observe in daily life:
satisfaction of need v. fulfillment of desire

the body is but a vessel for soul,
serving to contain all that the soul needs;
the body is but a vehicle for spirit,
serving to convey all that the spirit desires;

how might body serve to contain and convey
both soul and spirit as vessel and vehicle?

soul spirit

unity harmony
peace bliss
love joy
being becoming
loving caring
intimacy ecstasy
quality vitality
encounter experience
sacred divine
promise possibility
realization evolution
truth wisdom
responsibility freedom
depth height
inward outward
descend ascend
contemplation evaluation
involvement engagement
satisfaction fulfillment
cultivation celebration
dwelling peacefully flowing blissfully
heart of soul soul of spirit
contains conveys
accepts expects
let it be make it so
receptive assertive
attuned to what is required aligned with what is desired
dignity integrity
awakening enlightenment
being alive being alive




(A practice for living life to the fullest)


exploring …

the ways and means by which I can be centred in love
the ways and means by which I can follow (or manifest!) a path with heart
the ways and means by which I can be love truly and wisely

if the first pointer serves to expose the truth of who and what I am,
and if the second serves to reveal the meaning, purpose, and direction of my life,
then the third serves to realize a dynamic balance between my soul and spirit


the three deep, dark fears of spiritual beings in human form

1) a fear of letting go during sexual orgasm (the sexual fear)
2) a fear of losing control, of losing one’s mind (the political fear)
3) a fear of dying in pain, in anguish, in misery (the religious fear)

dysfunctional, maladaptive, unsustainable ways to maintain personal control
(here presented as pairs: a passive matter of soul, an active matter of spirit)












when life gives you lemons, turn them into lemonade ~ a popular proverb

how people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours ~ wayne dyer




(a global perspective: why is humanity failing to fulfill its true potential?)

weaving a terrestrial narrative that aligns with a cosmic perspective, including historical, interdimensional, extraterrestrial, conspiratorial, and eschatological elements, is an exhaustive process

such a terrestrial narrative would have us explore and expose the causes and consequences of two widespread (and related) social phenomena: cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement

the story of Howard Storm: how a visit to The Other Side cured his soul and spirit of cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement, transmuting his contempt for humanity into compassion and compersion

If darkness is your problem, talking about darkness won’t help.
If darkness is your problem, nothing can be done about darkness directly.
You cannot throw it out, you cannot push it out, you cannot switch it off.
Darkness is an absence. Nothing can be done about it directly.
If you have to do anything, you have to do something with the light, not with darkness.

~ Osho (Fear: Understanding and Accepting the Insecurities of Life, p. 136)




1. “I just can’t stand it anymore … why go on?”

2. “Wrong body, wrong family, wrong planet … why?”

3. “Why am I making such a mess of my life?”

4. “What does it really take to be (become) fulfilled in this life?”

5. Soul: “a sound approach to being perfect: possible?”

6. Spirit: “a sane approach to becoming perfect: desirable?”

7. The ultimate in truth, love, and power: dare we ask?


Study Notes


  • incorporate the use of symbols with these elements: sphere (soul), spiral (spirit), pyramid
  • presence and pretense: best to view them as complementary, rather than as mutually exclusive?
  • follow these elements of perspective: form, structure, substance, orientation, appearance
  • the devil challenge (problem, difficulty, obstacle, inadequacy, struggle, conflict) is in the details
  • the privileged among us: a little too preoccupied with celebrity, technology, personality, positivity?
  • extroverts and introverts: “living on the surface” and “living from the depths with presence”
  • the cosmic life review: a representation of the ultimate in personal fulfillment for a life lived?


* TUiPF = The Ultimate in Personal Fulfillment

Next: Ultimate Fulfillment 18

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective


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