Ultimate Fulfillment 15

by Christopher Lovejoy on July 20, 2014

In my previous post, I made reference to building a True Self from the ground up, with No Self serving as the ground. In this post, I begin to explore, clarify, and elaborate on what this might mean.

First, some preliminaries …

By “ground”, I do not mean to suggest solid earthly ground; I mean ground as in “figure and ground”, where this particular ground serves as a fluid, ever-moving, ever-changing backdrop to intentionality, with No Self serving as the vital dynamic in balance with the figure, the True Self.

In this view, No Self is a fluid dynamic ground from which, by which, and with which the energetic structure of a conceptual, symbolic True Self can be constructed and made functional, adaptable, and sustainable, much like when a sailing crew makes a sailboat on water seaworthy.

For my purposes, I will use “Self as Art” as an abbreviated expression of “True Self as Art” and I will treat the notion of “No Self as Life” as synonymous with the notion of “Death as Life”.

I’ll start with this passage, which I felt inspired to write in the course of writing this post.

seek not for love and care
but merely expose and release
what keeps you from love and care

Where love is integral to the heart of soul,
care is fundamental to a spirit in harmony with soul.

I give this statement double emphasis because I view it as the most important insight I have ever had, the most important I will ever have, and, I dare say, the most important anyone can have.

What this insight means in practical terms is that we need not seek love or care; we need only gently expose (if possible) and release (if possible) any conditioning that keeps us from knowing and expressing genuine love, that keeps us from giving and receiving authentic care. Unfortunately, this is not as simple or as easy as it sounds. The most significant exposures and releases can only come in the loving, caring presence of another, but because parental and societal and personal conditioning enforces and reinforces egoic separation, the inclination to seek a loving, caring presence is dampened, even thwarted.

This is not to say that egoic gratification is not welcome and that a game face is not prudent, even necessary at times. In my view, both are vitally important adjuncts to the realization of soul and the evolution of spirit, notwithstanding any religious inclinations or spiritual opinions to the contrary. This is also not to say that an exclusive focus on matters of soul is not necessary or that an exclusive focus on matters of spirit is not desirable. Depending on where you are in life, and depending on what you need most in life, an exclusive focus on one or the other could be constructive for soul or productive for spirit.

In light of this complexity, I am attempting to construct (“structure determines behavior”) and cultivate (“purpose unifies destiny”) a Self as Art, using a variety of familiar concepts and symbols.




a message for our times: “be true, be wise, be free; love is the key”




(Setting the context)


The syntactical nature of reality, the real secret of magic,
is that the world is made of words, and if you know the words that the world is made of,
you can make of it whatever you wish ~ Terence McKenna

consider this truth: “there is no truth”: true or false? if true, then false; if false, then true

words are powerful, as and when they are spoken in the light of truth, love, and wisdom




(A cosmic perspective)

Previous study: the cosmic life review (learn more)

Current study: a cosmic perspective on birth, life, and death

View this page to explore the basic issues




The ethical imperative: guard guide your eyes, guard guide your thoughts, guard guide your steps

What the cosmic life review indicates we do in the earthly realm: (1) sanctify; (2) purify; (3) justify

Does “what does it take to be fulfilled?” = “what does it take to be sanctified, purified, justified?”?




Proposal: our prime directive as a species is finding the balance

  • finding the balance between soul (being) and spirit (becoming)
  • finding the balance between being perfectly full and becoming perfectly filled
  • finding the balance between living soulfully (truly, deeply) and living spiritually (wisely, freely)




(A context for living life to the fullest)

proposal to universalize human need:

need 1: “a safe place to eat and sleep”
need 2: “a way to satisfy all my needs”
need 3: “someone to love and cherish”
need 4: “a healthy, vital outlook on life”

a vital distinction to observe in daily life:
satisfaction of need v. fulfillment of desire

the body is but a vessel for soul,
serving to contain all that the soul needs;
the body is but a vehicle for spirit,
serving to convey all that the spirit desires;

how might body serve to contain and convey
both soul and spirit as vessel and vehicle?

soul spirit

unity harmony
peace bliss
love joy
being becoming
loving caring
intimacy ecstasy
quality vitality
encounter experience
sacred divine
promise possibility
realization evolution
truth wisdom
responsibility freedom
depth height
inward outward
descend ascend
contemplation evaluation
involvement engagement
satisfaction fulfillment
cultivation celebration
dwelling peacefully flowing blissfully
heart of soul soul of spirit
contains conveys
accepts expects
let it be make it so
receptive assertive
attuned to what is required aligned with what is desired
awakening enlightenment
being alive being alive




(A practice for living life to the fullest)


exploring …

the ways and means by which I can be centred in love
the ways and means by which I can follow (or manifest!) a path with heart
the ways and means by which I can be love truly and wisely

if the first pointer serves to expose the truth of who and what I am,
and if the second serves to reveal the meaning, purpose, and direction of my life,
then the third serves to realize a dynamic balance between my soul and spirit


the three deep, dark fears of spiritual beings in human form

1) a fear of letting go during sexual orgasm (the sexual fear)
2) a fear of losing control, of losing one’s mind (the political fear)
3) a fear of dying in pain, in anguish, in misery (the religious fear)

dysfunctional, maladaptive, unsustainable ways to maintain personal control
(here presented as pairs: a passive matter of soul, an active matter of spirit)












when life gives you lemons, turn them into lemonade ~ a popular proverb

how people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours ~ wayne dyer




(a global perspective: why is humanity failing to fulfill its true potential?)

weaving a terrestrial narrative that aligns with a cosmic perspective, including historical, interdimensional, extraterrestrial, conspiratorial, and eschatological elements, is an exhaustive process

such a terrestrial narrative would have us explore and expose the causes and consequences of two widespread (and related) social phenomena: cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement

the story of Howard Storm: how a visit to The Other Side cured his soul and spirit of cynical detachment and egocentric entitlement, transmuting his contempt for humanity into compassion and compersion

If darkness is your problem, talking about darkness won’t help.
If darkness is your problem, nothing can be done about darkness directly.
You cannot throw it out, you cannot push it out, you cannot switch it off.
Darkness is an absence. Nothing can be done about it directly.
If you have to do anything, you have to do something with the light, not with darkness.

~ Osho (Fear: Understanding and Accepting the Insecurities of Life, p. 136)




1. “I just can’t stand it anymore … why go on?”

2. “Wrong body, wrong family, wrong planet … why?”

3. “Why am I making such a mess of my life?”

4. “What does it really take to be (become) fulfilled in this life?”

5. Soul: “a sound approach to being perfect: possible?”

6. Spirit: “a sane approach to becoming perfect: desirable?”

7. The ultimate in truth, love, and power: dare we ask?


Study Notes


  • incorporate the use of symbols with these elements: sphere (soul), spiral (spirit), pyramid
  • presence and pretense: best to view them as complementary, rather than as mutually exclusive?
  • follow these elements of perspective: form, structure, substance, orientation, appearance
  • the devil challenge (problem, difficulty, obstacle, inadequacy, struggle, conflict) is in the details
  • the privileged among us: a little too preoccupied with celebrity, technology, personality, positivity?
  • extroverts and introverts: “living on the surface” and “living from the depths with presence”
  • the cosmic life review: a representation of the ultimate in personal fulfillment for a life lived?


* TUiPF = The Ultimate in Personal Fulfillment

Next: Ultimate Fulfillment 16

Note: this ever growing perspective began here: Ultimate Perspective


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