Newsletter Post # 2

by Christopher Lovejoy on March 18, 2011

The Perspectives on Personal Fulfillment Newsletter
Issue # 2, March 18, 2011, posted as time and inclination permit

Welcome to my second newsletter.

In this post, I’ll be giving you the scoop on some recent updates to my site.

I’ll be sharing a personal reflection, providing a feature article on Dutch women, putting out a quote to ponder, and making some recommended viewings and readings.

And giving you a hint of what lies ahead for PoPF (Perspectives on Personal Fulfillment).

Recent Updates

I recently transformed my Archives page into a Resources page, and so far, I’ve partitioned this page into the following three parts:

  1. a listing of my current lenses at Squidoo (now Hubpages);
  2. several listings of cornerstone content from this site, arranged in a serial format; and
  3. a snapshot of my archive, listing my posts by month, day, and year

A Personal Reflection

On Monday, earlier this week, I resumed writing in my intimate journal.

The last entry I made in this journal was on March 11, 1996.

Every day since Monday, I’ve been writing in this journal from the heart of my soul. The words are flowing with delicious ease and I feel uncommonly satisfied after writing them.

I expect to have lots of material for my upcoming email subscription newsletter, which I’ve titled … from the heart of my soul …, and I intend to open it up to the public, starting next Sunday [update (3/27/11): I’ve postponed this offering indefinitely, pending further study].

When you open your heart and follow your bliss, things happen.

When you reach out to people who resonate with you along your trail of bliss, they happily reciprocate. When you set your heart on exploring certain ideas, they invariably bloom.

And when you take small steps towards big outcomes, the steps become easier to take.

Indicators for taking more and better and easier steps appear as if from nowhere.

Why I Like Dutch Women

This feature article is for women – and for the men who love, adore, honor, and cherish them.

Recently, I came across an article, The Land that Feminism Forgot, by Liz Jones from the Daily Mail online in the UK. In it, she wonders if Dutch women have found the secret of happiness.

After reading her article, I’m thinking that maybe they have.

And if you’re looking for sterling examples of minimalist fulfillment, look no further.

Fewer than 10 percent of Dutch women work full-time.

Those who don’t include mothers with young families who work 2 or 3 hours a week, older women who care for elderly relatives, as well as women in their 20s and 30s who have no children.

In comparison to their male counterparts, Dutch women face one of the highest wage gaps in Europe.

And yet …

A new book, with the rather provocative title of Dutch Women Don’t Get Depressed, explains that the reason they don’t is because most of them work part-time.

They earn less and have less.


Because many of them rely on their men to pay their way – putting a new (and improved?) spin on The Dutch Date, The Dutch Treat, and the phrase “Let’s Go Dutch”.

Here’s the thing: Dutch women simply do not want to spend more time at work.

They don’t want to work extended hours at their jobs, even if they don’t have children.

Instead, they want to relax, read a book, sip a coffee, meet with friends.

As one 30-something Dutch lady in a coffee shop tells it: “Dutch women meet friends for lunch, we visit family, we exercise, we work on who we are.”

She adds: “We sometimes feel sorry for the men who are stuck in the office all day, but not that often.”

What does she do all day?

“I garden!”

Could this be why the divorce rate for Dutch women is one of the lowest in Europe?

Middle- and upper-middle class Dutch women are turning their backs on the corporate world to follow their bliss and enjoy their lives.

They work to live – not live to work – and their men are happy to pay their way.

For many of these women, being a mom is more important than a job. They’re willing to bear the pressure – “to be a good wife, to be a good cook, to keep the home nice”.

All of which begs the question for the career-driven woman: do Dutch women feel vulnerable?

As one Dutch woman puts it: “I used to earn a lot of money, so I know I could again. I am training to be a beauty therapist, so I will work one day, just not full-time.”

Just not full-time.

One day, when Liz Jones met a young man at a train station heading home, arms full of tulips, she asked him: do you have a girlfriend?”


“Does she work full-time?”

“Are you kidding? No, it’s my job to worship her, to make her happy and fulfilled.”

I think what he meant was that he’s more than happy to go out of his way to please his woman, to provide for her, in exchange for the services she provides to help him keep doing this.

I must say that I like Dutch women because they’re not exhausted “all the time”.

I like them because they’re not consumed with meeting goals, and I like them because they’re not frustrated out of their minds by not having the time to do what they most love to do.

Any woman who dares to use the f-word and call herself a feminist could learn something here.

Just as low-maintenance men go easy on the hearts and minds of women everywhere, so, too, do low-maintenance women go easy on the hearts and minds of men everywhere.

A natural balance is an easy balance – and a potentially fulfilling one at that.

For everyone concerned.

Note: a link to the online article is shown below, but someone pulled it from the Daily Mail site. I made an attempt to locate it online, but to no avail. I don’t think it was for lack of popularity; last time I looked, I saw an icon that indicated 336 comments.

A Quote to Ponder

I am one of these Dutch women, well educated, 30 something, and working parttime in a 4-day workweek. I can live off the salary quite comfortably, am economically independent and still have time to have time to myself. I have worked full-time in the past, but will never return to a full-time job if I can help it. I live to work and life is pretty good on my side of the pond. My suggestion to men and women would be: if you can afford it, you ought to give it a go. You’re worth it! ; ) – famke, Utrecht, the Netherlands, 11/3/2011

Impressions: I feel a strong affinity for the liberal, laissez-faire Dutch sensibility. My quote to ponder was taken from the comment section that followed the article cited in my feature article above (before it was summarily censored), and in my heart and mind, does a good job of providing a healthy, vibrant perspective on personal fulfillment. It’s not that women everywhere should go back to being domestic slaves or submissive mates (though, even here, some would say they ought to be given a choice). Rather, it’s that they be given a fundamental choice to live their lives the best way they know how, given the resources available to them. Happily, many women know a good thing when they see it.

Recommended Viewings and Readings

In a few days, I’ll be sharing a rather large post on the topic of who you really are.

To fully appreciate this post, I would recommend that you make some time, if you haven’t already, to watch one or both of these documentaries:

Documentary #1: Life After Life

Documentary #2: The Day I Died

In my mind, they’re not only beneficial, but potentially life-changing.

In the same vein, I’d like to feature the pioneering works of Michael Newton. I’ve read them all and I thoroughly enjoyed the experience of reading them.

Here they are, in order of publication. If you’re interested, I suggest that you read them in this order:

  1. Journey of Souls: Case Studies of Life Between Lives
  2. Destiny of Souls: New Case Studies of Life Between Lives
  3. Life Between Lives: Hypnotherapy for Spiritual Regression
  4. Memories of the Afterlife: Life Between Lives Stories of Personal Transformation

What Lies Ahead for PoPF

Watch for the release of my new email subscription newsletter, … from the heart of my soul …, intended to give readers a taste of my soul. Scheduled for release on Sunday, March 27, 2011 [update (3/27/11): I’ve postponed this offering indefinitely, pending further study].

In the meantime, please feel free to share this newsletter with others.

Until next time, be true, be wise, be free.




Christopher Lovejoy
Perspectives on Personal Fulfillment

Christopher Lovejoy has been blogging at Perspectives on Personal Fulfillment since June 2010, helping himself and others, through his writings, to live and lead more fulfilling lives. He is the author of Your Life Your Dream: A Primer on Personal Fulfillment.

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